Ok, so this is going to be a very ... very mature topic. NO .. not sexual >.>. I mean it may have some thoughts that others will not like and it's going to require a lot of maturity to talk about. So please, if you don't think you can respond with a mature response, don't respond at all.
Ok, there are many people here who have had a hard time with their lives. In fact some people have gone through some really crazy things, which has caused issues for that person. Like depression, split personality, PTSD, or what have you.
The main goal of this topic is for me to understand it a bit better. I try not to go into to much detail about myself here, and even try to not mention the things I have been through. It's always been my thought process that it is best to keep those things to myself, and not burden others with it. However, the things I have been through has left me a bit cold, and I lost most of my sympathy .. assuming I even have any left. I have extreme difficulty understanding why people feel the way they do, and why they go through such issues when bad things happen.
When bad things happen to me, I may get upset for a few minutes. But then I typically just shrug it off and it's whatever for me. Many people have said I am a happy go lucky kind of person, but I feel they are wrong as I do care about the future, I just don't let the past haunt me, and I leave it as the past. There is nothing I can do about something that already happened.
Anyway, people go through some stuff .. that from my perspective at times is nothing, it's just ok ... big deal. Yet they have a difficult time with it. I try not to get involved in any of these threads that mention peoples lives as if they are going through something difficult because ... I just don't understand it. I don't want to piss anyone off by mistake by questioning them. It's not my place to do so.
However, that doesn't stop me from wondering, why people seem so fragile. Why do they hurt so easily? Now, I have been on the side of being depressed and suicidal, but I got over it. Not because I got help from anyone, but because I just felt like it doesn't matter. Just ignore it, and move on. Can't dwell on things you can't fix. One of my therapists was actually pretty freaked out about it and was concerned. He told me he was trying to get emotional reactions out of me but he could not, and he believes I have locked certain emotions away.
Now ... I don't know if I believe that or not ... but I suppose it would make sense. Maybe it explains why I don't understand people, or why they let the little things bother them so much.
Anyway, it's a weird topic and would like to hear others thoughts on this. How do you guys typically feel when you hear someones sob story? Their life's story? Does it make you feel sad? Angry? Emotional at all? For me ... I look at these stories ... and I don't get it. Who cares is what I usually think, usually with a roll of the eyes. It's not that I don't care about people either, I do care about people ... i just really don't care much about their minuscule problems. I feel like everyone has problems, some people just decide not to go around telling everyone.
So is it ... that I am actually without sympathy. Am I a jerk? Am I mean? I have actually lost friends due to being like this. Even though from my perspective, I was only being honest with them.