Hi friends, a somewhat serious inquiry for you.
Over the past several months, I have been going through preparations to have surgery for a gastrectomy -- a procedure used for helping people lose weight. My doctor says I'll spend at least 2 nights in the hospital, and probably will need to be in bed most of the time once out of the hospital. I'm excited about how this surgery is going to help me get more healthy -- and about resolving some of my underlying medical issues. But I also feel afraid.
One of the big things that worries me is my bedwetting. I've shared a bit about this in the past...it started a few years ago when I started using a CPAP machine. It's odd, because usually it goes in the opposite direction for people with sleep apnea (the CPAP typically resolves this issue). Anyways, for quite a while it was happening every night and since then has been far more intermittent. I've gone for several weeks without an episode, then slipped back into times where it'll be every night for week or two. In general, I'd say it happens 3-4x per week. And in some ways, it seems like it's more likely if I'm wearing a diaper -- As in, my wife and I both wonder if my diaper wearing might influence it happening. [And yes, I've been to urologists, neurologists, sleep specialists, therapists etc. -- no one has much of a clue as to why I'm having this problem]
Ok - so of course, I'm DL. I enjoy diapers; they help me deal with stress and fear, etc, etc. And so other than being kind of embarrassing in terms of our culture, having to wear diapers for bedwetting is fun most of the time. You understand.
So here's my question. What would you do if you were in my situation: intermittent bedwetting, upcoming surgery w/ at least a couple night stay, and also secretly liking diapers? Should I talk to the hospital staff about it before I get there? Should I ask them how my bedwetting will be accommodated? Should I take my own diapers with me and plan on wearing them (my wife will be with me so she'll help me w/ putting it on if I need it I'm sure)? Should I just not tell the staff at all -- and if it happens, it happens, and I'll just pee in the bed?
I wear a diaper most nights at home or even when I'm traveling. And in general, it's a necessary and good thing. So that's my normal deal -- it's medically helpful. But because this is also a fetish, I'm sensitive and conscientious about it. I don't want to subject other unsuspecting people to my sexual proclivities. At the same time, I know that my diaper wearing is also something that helps me with anxiety/stress...it's a form of self-care for me in a way.
My wife thinks I should leave diapers home and not tell the hospital about bedwetting at all. She says the staff will laugh at me and make fun of me behind my back -- and that it'll affect my level of care because they'll think I'm a weirdo and want to stay away from my room as much as possible. She thinks it'd be a huge oddity for a 30-something guy wearing a diaper in the hospital if he's ambulatory and otherwise continent.
So yeah, I'm kind of at a loss as to what to do. I have an appointment (the final one before surgery) in the coming week and so It seems like this is the opportunity to bring it up with the doctor/nurse and ask for their opinion on it.
Thanks for your help/advice (more serious replies would be particularly helpful)....If this fits better in the incontinence section, by all means, move it.