Acceptance and validation is important to everyone, regardless of our personality or interests. It helps us to be secure people. The trouble with our unique desires is that it is seen as unacceptable in adult society. I have a desperate need to discuss this out loud with people close to me....after all it's such an integral part of my whole being. Fortunately, I have a partner who knows and accepts to a point, but I still have great difficulty properly discussing this with her....and as you've already suggested, that's partly because she can never properly appreciate what's going on in my head. That's why it's important to have forums like this where we can talk openly about our stuff 'albeit over text'