So if anyone's followed my post history closely, you'll know that an ever-evolving part of my life is my fiancee's involvement in diaper play with me. For anyone who could use a refresher, here's a brief history. When I first told her about ABDL she was a bit freaked out but still loved me. Over time she got more comfortable with it and we started talking about ways that we could play together. The long and short of it is that I went too fast and she wasn't ready and so she got super uncomfortable with it for the next few years. In the last few years though we've both matured a lot and pushed a lot of our boundaries and it's back on the table.
What I need is help brainstorming ways she can get involved. For that there are a few limitations I'm working with. First, no ageplay. I'm not really into AB (more complex than that, but that suffices) so any play would be purely from the DL angle. So we're both adults and there's no caretaker role. Two, diapers are more for me rather than her. She said that she'd be ok wearing a diaper for me but I don't want to push that too hard. I don't want to end up making her uncomfortable, and I think there's plenty of territory to explore with just me being diapered when we have fun together.
Let's also keep in mind that this forum operates at PG-13 level. So any suggestions for ways we can play together should keep that in mind. I want to keep in line of this site's rules of decorum. To be honest, I've kept considering posting this thread for the last six months and keep not doing so because I'm having a really, really hard time imagining ways to have straight diaper play that aren't sexual. That said, I figure there's no harm in posing the question anyway and just seeing what ideas you fine folk might have for me.
We already have the basic me-in-diapers. She'll diaper me when I get in for the weekend or home from work. She'll change me whenever I need until the game has to end (eg, I need to go back to work). She also sometimes diapers me before we go out for a date- dinner, movie, etc- and changes me after we get back in.
So... what else is there we can do? Ageplay being out- so no bottles, pacifiers, stuffed animals, mommying, etc- I feel like I'm at a loss for other ways to involve her in my diaperdness. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!
And more geared toward the women of ADISC* I'd also like advice on what a good introductory diaper for her might be. I'm trying to identify a diaper that would be comfortable for her to wear, but the problem is keeping in mind that she's not a person for whom the thought of a giant diaper carries any appeal. I have no idea what constitutes "comfortable" in a diaper for a person who doesn't have any intrinsic attraction to diapers. Cloth-backed or plastic-backed? Bulky or unobtrusive? Pull-up style or tapes? Is there any particular "starter diaper" our female members might point me to? What do you use? What do you like about them? And just to reiterate, anything with babyish designs is out. Her enjoying diapers with me has been entirely predicated on putting mental separation between diapers and babies. I know that my kinks have a tendency to rub off on her when she's involved, so I'm trying hard to identify the best ways to introduce her to wearing diapers while minimizing the aforementioned things that would make her uncomfortable with doing so.
On that note, I'd like to point out that while I have a gameplan for introducing her to diapers, I'm definitely open to suggestions on that too. I'm planning on just starting out by asking her to wear a diaper once in a while. Not use, just wear. When we're at home watching a movie or playing video games or something of that nature. From there we'll see where it goes. That said, what I'm really looking for is finding new ways to get her involved in me wearing diapers because that's where I feel to be at a loss.
*Just to throw it out there, an annual "Women of ADISC" photoshoot would probably raise enough money to pay for this site's maintenance costs for a year. Merely a thought.