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    Hmm... how to start this. I've always been rather introverted even as a child and I'm cool with that. I had friends but usually wasn't the one who initiated them.

    Apparently while my brother was trying to impress girls back when we were little, but I'd draw and they'd develop crushes on me. I never really noticed until my mom pointed it out the other day. I'm really bad at picking up on those cues maybe if she offered a quick diaper change.

    The thing is I got really shy later in grade school due to some crazy life circumstances. I didn't really think of it as a problem, but by junior high I started to love diapers and things got really out of hand. The binge purge turned my shyness into full on social phobia. I haven't really had friends since grade school at all really. The loneliness both romantically and socially is quite hard to deal with. At least I'm being honest with myself now and my love of diapers and baby treatment.

    Anyone else on here have social isolation issues? Do you think abdl has an effect on this stuff?

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    With the exception of girls having crushes on me, you sound exactly like me when I was younger. I've always been extremely shy, introverted, and just plain socially awkward. It was really bad in elementary school, because I really wanted to make friends but when I'd open up and be myself around people, they'd think I was weird and either reject me or make fun of me. That rejection lead to bad self esteem issues down the road, and that only caused me to become even more socially anxious. I was lucky enough to find a friend or two in middle school to get me through everything and I was actually very social for most of highschool. However, now I'm drifting apart from them (They treat me like crap and all they ever do is get high), and I'm starting to isolate myself again.

    I don't think there is any direct correlation between ab/dl and social isolation, but I believe it's possible for ab/dl to exacerbate social isolation. For those of us who discovered this side of us as children, it can be a big load to carry. These feelings are so overwhelming but we still have to keep them from all our closest friends and family. For me personally, this inability to fully open up to anyone actually caused me to develop a fear of getting close to people, even people I trust completely. So, speaking from experience, I suppose they can be related, but it really depends on the person and the individual situation.

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    My social isolation comes from the fact that I was homeschooled all my life. My parents never forced me to try to make friends either, so for most of my childhood and adolescence I had little contact with people my own age. I still don't have any real-life friends.

    I think my isolation may have played a part in developing my adult baby side. Maybe if I'd developed friendships and had my emotional needs satisfied, I wouldn't have had them culminate in this desire to be cared for. For all I know it made me asexual as well. I figure perhaps I couldn't become attracted to what I didn't know.

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    You'll find that many deal with feelings of loneliness and isolation. Some of it is self-selecting, given the relationship between being introverted and using the internet. And some may very well be related to the weight of carrying ABDL on one's shoulder. But truthfully, I just feel there are a LOT of lonely people out there, everywhere... It's kind of part of being human.

    I've never had a friend, for example. As in, my cell phone does nothing, and has never done nothing, but wake me up in the morning. My isolation is caused by difficulty with intimacy due to years of physical and emotional abuse as a child. Which coincidentally is also how I feel the seeds of regressive baby behavior came to be implanted in me in the first place. So in a way, my social isolation is related to ABDL, but maybe not caused by it, directly. But that is just my situation. I don't believe most ABDL were abused.

    For what it is worth, though, this experience has allowed me to learn to be comfortable on my own. It is still a work in progress, and yes, I do feel lonely, quite often. But I enjoy my own company, and I enjoy the little glimpses I get to be with others. -- And I have the fringe benefit of being able to say that I am 26 years old and saving my first kiss for prince charming.

    Lemons into lemonade, you know?

    All you can truly do is picture the life you want, and work on yourself a little bit at a time to make that world a reality.

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    Quote Originally Posted by theQman View Post
    With the exception of girls having crushes on me, you sound exactly like me when I was younger. I've always been extremely shy, introverted, and just plain socially awkward. It was really bad in elementary school, because I really wanted to make friends but when I'd open up and be myself around people, they'd think I was weird and either reject me or make fun of me. That rejection lead to bad self esteem issues down the road, and that only caused me to become even more socially anxious. I was lucky enough to find a friend or two in middle school to get me through everything and I was actually very social for most of highschool. However, now I'm drifting apart from them (They treat me like crap and all they ever do is get high), and I'm starting to isolate myself again.

    I don't think there is any direct correlation between ab/dl and social isolation, but I believe it's possible for ab/dl to exacerbate social isolation. For those of us who discovered this side of us as children, it can be a big load to carry. These feelings are so overwhelming but we still have to keep them from all our closest friends and family. For me personally, this inability to fully open up to anyone actually caused me to develop a fear of getting close to people, even people I trust completely. So, speaking from experience, I suppose they can be related, but it really depends on the person and the individual situation.
    I can't agree with this more. Sounds a lot like my experience with social awkwardness and being an introvert. I know there are times that I just can't stand being around anyone and just want to indulge in my baby side. But yes, I feel this accurately sums up how I've been.



    Quote Originally Posted by KimbaStarshine View Post
    For all I know it made me asexual as well. I figure perhaps I couldn't become attracted to what I didn't know.
    It has for me too, especially since I recently came to the realization that I'm asexual and can't exactly deal with the thought of a sexual relationship. I just can't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KimbaStarshine View Post
    For all I know it made me asexual as well. I figure perhaps I couldn't become attracted to what I didn't know.
    I can seriously relate to this. It's odd, I had a big crush on a girl once in my life but nothing ever came of it, and as I got older and kept dicing deeper into my ab/dl desires, my attraction to girls seemed to fade into the background. Now that attraction seems to just be gone completely. I really wonder if my love for diapers caused me to become asexual.

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    Introversion, social awkwardness, dealing with really deep and peculiar feelings at a very young age, feeling alone in these feelings, all things I can certainly relate too. It would seem that many here share similar experiences, but not sure about the correlation to being ABDL.
    I have in the past and still now struggle with social awkwardness. Even when people are attracted to me through things I have to offer, I don't seem to be able to maintain the connections and shy away. I'm just super happy to have found someone that I have connected with. I do try to put myself out there, especially since I know that the shyness is holding me back, but it's not easy. I get really annoyed with myself when I see less capable people kicking major goals just because of their self confidence. Oh well I guess it's just a case of keep trying. Kudos to everyone having a go.

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    I'm suddenly not feeling so good about this whole thing. I really want to change. I've had crushes and experienced bouts where the shyness lifts, but they were always on the end of the purge phases. On the last purge I even had normal attraction to girls. I think my abdlism isn't a cause but a way of coping with it all. uhm I gotta think about all of this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by theQman View Post
    I can seriously relate to this. It's odd, I had a big crush on a girl once in my life but nothing ever came of it, and as I got older and kept dicing deeper into my ab/dl desires, my attraction to girls seemed to fade into the background. Now that attraction seems to just be gone completely. I really wonder if my love for diapers caused me to become asexual.
    I wouldn't say the diapers played a part in making my sexuality, as my desire to actually wear is only a couple years old. I just sort of realized that I didn't have the same sorts of feelings towards other people as other people did. My fetishes were my sexual outlet. I can become romantically attracted to guys, but the sexual side isn't there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HugMuffees View Post
    I'm suddenly not feeling so good about this whole thing. I really want to change. I've had crushes and experienced bouts where the shyness lifts, but they were always on the end of the purge phases. On the last purge I even had normal attraction to girls. I think my abdlism isn't a cause but a way of coping with it all. uhm I gotta think about all of this.
    I think this sounds like something you need in your life. The thing is that you won't change from being an introvert, but that's ok, cause introverts can have amazing close relationships with just one other person (that's what they excel at...even in a crowd) the thing is you've just got to get up the courage and determination to put yourself in situations where you can meet someone.

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