I've gone to some meets via Fetlife. The group that I met seemed like a pretty solid group of people, though circumstances have resulted in me not being able to make any of the meetups for 3 months, going on 4, unfortunately. Fetlife has a lot of BDSM crossover, of course, but people are also very understanding of everyone's boundaries and what you are/aren't interested in. Just an option if you want that. I didn't feel like my particular local group really had much in the way of options for romance though, a lot of people were taken or into different things and there weren't many singles around my age, regrettably.