For those of you that know me, I have logged in to say goodbye. For those that don't, you can scroll past this post, it won't hurt you.
I was a regular on this forum a good while ago now, and I have received some very valuable advice indeed.
However, this time in coming back when I updated my current status as far as my incontinence goes, it felt like people were against my idea of surgery to prevent myself from pooping myself, I had already received quite some aversion when I had recurring problems with my catheter, constantly being told that surely wetting myself would be far better than repeated infections etc.
No, not for me, I will NEVER be ok with sitting in my own mess, liquid or solid.
Due to my strong opinions on my OWN hygiene, and my annoyance at various members constantly trying to change my mind, I have decided that it is best that I terminate my membership on the forum.
I really am not interested in nappies (I call them that because that is what they are, the medical profession call them pads etc to prevent adults from getting upset at the thought of having to wear a nappy) as anything other than a device to stop wee soaking and destroying my clothes and furniture.
So I have kept myself to the incontinence only section, and I feel, (perhaps due to paranoia more than anything else) that the members who are not medically in need of the products on offer feel I am not welcome here.
Plus, when I am medically incontinent and not remotely enjoying any aspect, it actually upsets me when people try to persuade me to get used to it, to accept it and to just - well - sit and p*ss myself.
I will never ever accept that this is the norm, I have too much self respect. Then to be told after that, that I am just in denial? NO. Sorry, just. NO.
So yeah, I shouldn't even be here. Right in my intro I said it was a mistake and I should leave, I should have just gone.
The point then of this post, why didn't I just leave quietly?
I feel that I have made some good relationships here, only one was in error as although it felt so right to start with, it quickly went sour, they were self righteous, all about themselves and had the nerve to have a go at me when I made it about me just for once. (or twice maybe)
So yeah, I am saying goodbye to the good relationships I had with people here.
I will give it a while to see if anyone bothers to reply, then I will look at deactivating my account.
Very best wishes