Ok, so, I know there's always a whole bunch of these relationship advice threads, so I hate to add another one, but I guess the one thing that's good about threads like this is that no two are ever the same.
I have a new girlfriend of about two months. I like her a lot so far, she seems smart, grounded, driven, friendly…pretty much everything you could want out of a 20 something in this day in age. Perhaps the best part, is that I told her about my diaper wearing before we decided to make the relationship official, and she was actually ok with it. I didn't expect it to go over so well, but she took it in stride and promised me she'd be supportive of it.
To her credit, she's lived up to that. I've only worn around her about 4-5 times just to keep it easy in the beginning. She started out asking me to just wear shorts over them the first time or two so she could get used to it. I slept over her place last weekend for Memorial Day and she actually told me to put one on to sleep in, so I did, two nights in a row. She made out with me when we woke up, while I was wearing the diaper and nothing else, so it clearly didn't phase her. I was told to bring a few over to keep at her place in case I ever want them next time I come by. She even told me, when she's ready, she'll try one on herself and give it a shot. Which all of this is pretty amazing and I feel like I'm pretty lucky.
So, here's where I need advice. When I wore for the first time, I brought over an M4, a Tena Maxi and an ABU Cushie. The Cushie caught her attention the most, she was surprised they actually made diapers like that and not in like a cheetah print or something, so clearly she has no idea about AB/DL. I asked her if she had a preference which one I wore, she said she didn't care, but definitely preferred the "plain ones". Should I take that as her not being comfortable with the baby printed ones? One reason I'm concerned is she never started shaving "down there" until we started dating, because she wanted to match what I did. I asked why she never did before and all she said was she didn't want to feel like a baby. So, I'm wondering if baby looking diapers might push it with her.
I worry about this because with AB/DL diapers really being the only ones not switching to cloth backing that someday I won't have access to plastic backed diapers. I have like 12 bags of Tena Maxi stashed but it's just a thought.
Also, under no circumstances am I ever to pee in my diapers, because that's gross. I'm guessing I should just take the compromise there and never actually use the diaper around her? As in, don't ever broach the subject?
One final question, do I just let her come to me about her trying a diaper on, or do I ask her in time if she doesn't say anything in a few months?
Thanks for all your time, whoever reads this!