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Thread: Doing age play with my partner. The good and bad

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    I have been very blessed lately. A few months ago, I entered into a new relationship with a lady, who I am quickly falling in love with. There are all the usual reasons of compatibility, we like the same things etc., but the biggest bonus is she enjoys AB/DL things as well.

    You see, she suffers from some IC issues. She has the standard stress IC problems mostly, where she will leak a bit if she laughs, sneezes or coughs too hard. As a result she wears pads in her panties all the time for protection. But she also gets overflow IC issues as well occasionally. I hadn't heard of this before, but apparently if she is getting full, sometimes she will just start leaking until the level in her bladder goes down. If she's drinking, she may have an occasional urge IC accident as well, where she will suddenly need to go NOW, or will lose control. If she knows beforehand that she is going to be in a difficult situation like drinking a lot, or maybe going for a long drive, she wears Depends or Tena briefs or diapers.

    I discovered this within a few weeks of our relationship starting, after a lot of comments like "Oohh, I need to go badly or I'll wet my pants" or "I just peed a bit!" After a small wet pants incident one night while going back to her place after a meal out, she told me about her problems. I, of course, was very quick to tell her that I was fine with it, and in fact quite liked it.....

    We had a real deep in depth discussion about it. It was the first time I had told anybody except for my ex-wife about my love affair with wet pants and accidents. I told her everything. How I like wetting my own pants, how much I liked seeing her wet, as well as how I liked diapers, both for myself and others. I even told her how I identified myself as a "little", and saw myself as 9-12 years old sometimes when I played wetting games.

    She blew me away when she related similar feelings. Her husband passed away about 6 years ago, and apparently he was into it as well, just in a different way. He used to act as her caretaker, (not daddy, they found using that word too weird) and loved babying her and helping her change when she had an accident. She loved it too, and enjoyed being treated as a toddler as he changed or diapered her.

    So while we both love the same type of things, they are also different. I've never been interested in having or being a care giver, and see myself as an older kid who wets his pants sometimes, she sees herself as loving the feeling of being maybe 3-4 years old, with somebody to nurture and take care of her.

    But our interests are close enough to experiment with our fantasies and try new things with each other, which we have done twice in the last couple of weeks.

    The first time was at her place, where we tried things her way. She dressed up in a cute little nightdress with Mickey Mouse on the front, a pair of Depends briefs underneath, and some stripey pink socks, then held on while watching cartoons. Of course she held on to long, and wet her pants while sitting on the floor, leaving a wet spot on the carpet that I had to clean up. I had to punish her by making her wear a diaper after that. I mean, if she can't behave like a big girl, she will get treated like a baby, won't she?

    Then the other night we played my games. We were older kids, and sat at the table doing some colouring in, and having so much fun that I didn't want to stop and go to the toilet. I waited for too long, and ended up wetting my grey sweatpants as I sat there. She was naughty too, and did a wee in her faded denim shorts. Apparently our parents must have found out, and they punished us by making us both wear diapers and t shirts only while we watched TV.

    Now you're probably thinking that this is a work of fantasy and just to good to be true. But it wasn't all as good as I had hoped and dreamed of for so long.

    For starters I found that I really enjoyed the caretaker role that I played. I didn't expect to, but I did and it was awesome.

    But as for my playtime, I just felt so incredibly awkward. I was so self conscious you wouldn't believe. I just could not relax enough to enjoy it. For so long I've wanted to wet my pants with a playmate, and enjoy some diaper time like that as well, but when it happened, I was just so aware of how I sounded and what I looked like in real life.

    In my fantasies I am always in a little mindset. And everything I say or do is actually being said by a little me, but in reality I just saw big old "normal" (?) me acting like a little kid. She was great, and got right into it, but I just could not regress enough in front of someone else to truly engage in it.

    At best it felt awkward and uncomfortable.

    We won't give up that easily though, and will definitely try again. But now I'm starting to wonder if indeed there is a caregiver inside me as well, or instead of a little.

    Only time will tell.

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    That's great!

    I think you are right (not to give up on your playtime). This was your first time in the new situation and it may be better in the future. Of course, there is the chance that it just won't work out. I hope you do figure out how to get over the awkwardness.

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    Thanks BabyDenise. I appreciate the feedback.

    It just seems so weird. I've longed for the chance to do this for so long. I mean really dreamed about it. It has been like number 1 on the bucket list. And now to finally do it, and not truly enjoy it seems so strange.

    With the help of self-psychology, I think that it boils down to this. While I have been "flying solo", it is so easy to use your imagination and perfectly imagine your ideal dream scenario. Yet when you introduce others into it in a real life situation, the script has unexpected changes.

    What I always thought that I'd be comfortable doing and saying in my fantasies, I felt very uncomfortable copying in real life. Even though I shouldn't, I felt very embarrassed at times. I just couldn't seem to fully let go emotionally and just enjoy it! One of my biggest desires for years has been to wet in front of somebody and then have to admit it, and yet when the time came, I felt like genuinely humiliated, and that's not a turn on for me!

    It was also weird how I felt so comfortable and right doing the caretaker role, because as I said, it's never held an interest for me before.

    We had a good talk about it after, and agreed that it's her turn to be looked after again next. I'm looking forward to trying that again! We also agreed to try my games again in the future, but not next time. Next time we will try a role reversal of me as a younger little and her as the caretaker! Once again, nothing I've ever sought out, but now I'm willing to admit that anythings possible when it comes to experimenting.

    I'm comfortable enough to accept that whatever happens won't put a strain on our relationship. We are both consenting adults, who are experimenting with a shared ideal, but are learning more about what makes us tick as we go.

    I have to be honest and say, that while I'm so grateful and lucky to actually find a partner who shares my interest, (a dream scenario I know) and I would never think to be ungrateful about it, I just really wish that my daydream fantasy would have played out. It's been the driving force behind so many "bucket list" dreams for years, and to finally get to try it and be let down by own inhibitions is a wake up call to my own negative frame of mind I feel.

    But as stated, we will keep trying. The "vanilla" side of our relationship is pretty strong so far, it's just the "more private" stuff that's been an issue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wombat View Post
    Thanks BabyDenise. I appreciate the feedback.

    It just seems so weird. I've longed for the chance to do this for so long. I mean really dreamed about it. It has been like number 1 on the bucket list. And now to finally do it, and not truly enjoy it seems so strange.

    With the help of self-psychology, I think that it boils down to this. While I have been "flying solo", it is so easy to use your imagination and perfectly imagine your ideal dream scenario. Yet when you introduce others into it in a real life situation, the script has unexpected changes.

    What I always thought that I'd be comfortable doing and saying in my fantasies, I felt very uncomfortable copying in real life. Even though I shouldn't, I felt very embarrassed at times. I just couldn't seem to fully let go emotionally and just enjoy it! One of my biggest desires for years has been to wet in front of somebody and then have to admit it, and yet when the time came, I felt like genuinely humiliated, and that's not a turn on for me!

    It was also weird how I felt so comfortable and right doing the caretaker role, because as I said, it's never held an interest for me before.

    We had a good talk about it after, and agreed that it's her turn to be looked after again next. I'm looking forward to trying that again! We also agreed to try my games again in the future, but not next time. Next time we will try a role reversal of me as a younger little and her as the caretaker! Once again, nothing I've ever sought out, but now I'm willing to admit that anythings possible when it comes to experimenting.

    I'm comfortable enough to accept that whatever happens won't put a strain on our relationship. We are both consenting adults, who are experimenting with a shared ideal, but are learning more about what makes us tick as we go.

    I have to be honest and say, that while I'm so grateful and lucky to actually find a partner who shares my interest, (a dream scenario I know) and I would never think to be ungrateful about it, I just really wish that my daydream fantasy would have played out. It's been the driving force behind so many "bucket list" dreams for years, and to finally get to try it and be let down by own inhibitions is a wake up call to my own negative frame of mind I feel.

    But as stated, we will keep trying. The "vanilla" side of our relationship is pretty strong so far, it's just the "more private" stuff that's been an issue.
    I think that's great that you have such an opportunity. You are really lucky. Give it some time Wombat. I've felt the same way as you when I've thought about how I may look to other people. My counselor is okay with my AB/DL interests, so that's a start for me.

    If you don't mind me asking, how did you meet such a great woman? I'm afraid I'll never get that chance.

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    As a recently socialized AB, I have first hand knowledge of your problem. I started hanging out with some kink folks around my area, who were not only accepting of my little-headedness but actually excited about it! I dressed cute, but vanilla the first time met them all (at a social gathering, a tea party actually) and then wore full AB gear for the next event (a "play" party where they had a small littles corner for us to play in while all the others did their ouchie things). Both times I felt a little (ha!) self-conscious, especially walking around in my shortalls at the party. But each time I do something with folks, even if it's just a diaper under street clothes at a munch, the feeling of awkwardness diminished a little. I'm still nervous each time, but less and less as the group and I get to know each other, learn what's expected or desired. Communication is key, but patience is the keyring. If y'all take your time, learn eachothers ways and needs and keep talking about things, I think it'll all work out. We're all rooting for both of you!

    As far as the unexpected desire to take care of her, I can only say that things, people, interests and behaviors change. It's as simple as that, and it's a common thing in the kink community, or so I'm learning. We shouldn't be afraid to explore our boundaries. Only after that can we expand our interests. And what worked for us when "flying solo" may not be the same thing we gravitate towards when a partner is involved.

    We're weird creatures, we humans.

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    Well look at this way, your "vanilla" side is doing good, you like each other and share some same interests

    I can understand what you mean with not really ever thinking you could or would want to be a caregiver, daddy, mommy, ect. but once you experienced it you found you liked it and wanted to explore it more, that's cool, cause I'm the same way

    Maybe having her be your caregiver is not your original dream, but maybe you will enjoy it as much as you've enjoyed being her's.

    I'm more of a teenager at heart, lol, and as much as I enjoy the thoughts and feeling of being the one cuddled, the idea and feeling of being the cuddler has really, really grown on me. IDK, maybe its just me and maybe because diapers and such wasn't always a part of me and are just a part of my everyday life.
    What I mean is diapers weren't originally part of me being little, I've always been this way I'm starting to see now, but diapers came later out of necessity (me being nighttime IC/bed wetter)

    But go for it! You know, have some fun, enjoy it, you may find you like it!

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    I have found that real life rarely works out as a fantasy does but that doesn't mean real life is necessarily bad.

    From what you said in your second post, I think you are going about this in the correct way. Changing roles, changing scenarios, changing clothing, etc is good. You don't want to get into a routine.

    Good luck.

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    It's good that you found someone that you can open up to and age play with. I say give it time and you will get over that awkwardness and and uncomfortableness.

    Good luck

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    Hey wombat. I saw your reply in my thread looking for some feedback over here so I figured I'd pop in. It's good that you guys are talking. For me, that's the hardest part. I can text with my wife about little stuff all day, but actually talking in person is hard for me lol. So good for you guys that you're talking about it!

    I can completely relate in regards to what you're saying about things being harder in person than in your head. I have the hardest time using my voice at all during little time. But I think it's good that you're talking through stuff. Honestly I think time is really what you need here. It seems like this is your first time getting to play out things that have been in your head. It's always going to probably be a little awkward as we've all been trained to be adults and not do this or that. So I think it's just a matter of getting past those natural blocks in your head. But just keep communicating and it will get better.

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    I gotta say, full regression has never been a thing with my roommate and I. Although we'll sit down in onesies and Bellisimos and watch television with pacifiers, one thing that we've both been uncomfortable with is baby talk. It just ruins it! No matter what we do, we can never go five minutes straight baby talk and not end up on the floor laughing at our voices so unfit for the job.

    In conclusion, do what I did: find the aspect of regression that bothers you and cut it until you become comfortable with it.

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