Okay, so obviously telling my wife before marriage would have been the ideal choice, but now I'm almost 11 years into my marriage and have three kids. I honestly thought I could suppress the desire after I got married. As you all know, that's almost impossible to do. I was wearing in secret after a year of being married. Also, I am a diaper lover only, not an AB if that makes any difference. I would like to hear from those who told their spouse about the diapers 5+ years into marriage and how their reaction was. I also would like to know how you approached the subject because I doubt "guess what? Your husband loves to wear diapers and wet them" would fly in a normal conversation. I really need help because I want to tell her but I can't find the courage. My wife is really vanilla when it comes to th bedroom so I can't imagine her actually understanding this, let alone accepting this.