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    Unhappy "You make us look bad"

    I was watching several videos of AB/DL people on the internet (clips from TV shows etc.) and some of the comments on the videos and on other websites seem to be along the lines of "(to the AB/DL person) you make us look bad".

    Largely this is because of the way they are presented on TV but for some reason it really annoys me when I see stuff like this within the community. It's kind of like, how can be expect people to accept and tolerate us if we can't even tolerate each other?

    I hate it when people complain that others are too "over the top" or they "perpetuate a stereotype". I've always been for people being who they wanted to be. I don't see a problem with AB/DL's dressing childishly when in public. Dress in a way that makes you feel happy and true to yourself and if others have something negative to say about it, then that's their problem.

    I don't care if people on TV or whatever give AB/DLism a "negative image". In the end, if someone is going to judge me based on how others behave, I don't even want to associate with them, much less care what they think.. Wow I'm on a rant I need to calm down..

    Whatever though, sorry if this post is just wierd or stupid, I'm in one of my moods (I'll probably regret posting this thread tomorrow anyway.) Ok whatever BYE

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    I have to disagree. There is a difference between people who dress "childishly" (e.g. short overalls or something) and people who take their personal lives into public. I would absolutely never wear and use in public because it's uncalled for. Non-IC ABDLs have no business doing that stuff in public because it puts others in an uncomfortable position. It's the same as ABDLs who wear onesies in public. At the end of the day, whether or not ABDL is a fetish to an individual, it is fetish <em>behavior,</em> and that's what matters. Someone might like to wear latex in a non-sexual way, but it's still inappropriate to do it in public because it is fetish attire. ABDL is an alternative lifestyle whether we like it or not, and I have no desire to see ABDLs fully expressed like that in public. It really is that kind of exhibitionist behavior that paints us in a bad light.

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    I don't think the obvious public behavior, whether on TV or in real life is doing us any favors. I think it is likely to give people the idea that being loud and proud with this is our ultimate goal as a community, not understanding that in that sense, we have no community. I also worry that it can set unrealistic and potentially harmful expectations for young and impressionable ABDLs as to what it means to be this way. However, I also think we're all responsible for ourselves and I can't expect others to conform to my expectations of good behavior. Anyone soliciting my opinion on the matter is going to get it but I'm not going to chase people around online telling them to behave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 417PlacesToGo View Post
    I have to disagree. There is a difference between people who dress "childishly" (e.g. short overalls or something) and people who take their personal lives into public. I would absolutely never wear and use in public because it's uncalled for. Non-IC ABDLs have no business doing that stuff in public because it puts others in an uncomfortable position. It's the same as ABDLs who wear onesies in public. At the end of the day, whether or not ABDL is a fetish to an individual, it is fetish <em>behavior,</em> and that's what matters. Someone might like to wear latex in a non-sexual way, but it's still inappropriate to do it in public because it is fetish attire. ABDL is an alternative lifestyle whether we like it or not, and I have no desire to see ABDLs fully expressed like that in public. It really is that kind of exhibitionist behavior that paints us in a bad light.


    No one is going to know you are wearing a diaper unless you make it that obvious but even IC people hide it in public. Even if someone finds out or you show, they are going to think it's medical. It's no different than a man crossdressing or a man wearing panties or a bra. But even transwomen go out in public as a woman so if we were to see a crossdresser, we would think they were transgender.

    Also a onesie is worn under clothes and you can wear pants over it and people will just think it's a shirt.
    Last edited by Calico; 05-May-2015 at 23:03.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 417PlacesToGo View Post
    I would absolutely never wear and use in public because it's uncalled for. Non-IC ABDLs have no business doing that stuff in public because it puts others in an uncomfortable position.
    I'm sorry, but I fail to understand how wearing a carefully-concealed diaper beneath sports clothing and wetting while I walk through Target or Best Buy is putting anyone else in an "uncomfortable position."

    If I were doing more than wetting, or if the diaper were showing, I'd see how others might find that "uncomfortable," and I'd agree that it's "uncalled for" since I'm not IC.

    The key is a careful exercise of restraint and common sense. Whether the activity is "uncalled for" isn't for anyone else to judge.

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    I am mostly in the closet with being an Adult Baby.

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    i agree with you i think i think its wrong for us to talk like we have some image to maintain i think it stupid the only time we have to say this is not the majority is when people do something that is wrong or illegal like when a guy calls a girl randomly and ask her to talk dirty to her or some crazy thing like that

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    Quote Originally Posted by sbmccue View Post
    I'm sorry, but I fail to understand how wearing a carefully-concealed diaper beneath sports clothing and wetting while I walk through Target or Best Buy is putting anyone else in an "uncomfortable position."

    If I were doing more than wetting, or if the diaper were showing, I'd see how others might find that "uncomfortable," and I'd agree that it's "uncalled for" since I'm not IC.

    The key is a careful exercise of restraint and common sense. Whether the activity is "uncalled for" isn't for anyone else to judge.
    The problem isn't people who conceal them. If you want to wear whatever under normal clothes, that's 100% fine. The problem comes from people who don't conceal - I only criticize exhibitionists who outwardly appear in baby clothes - or worse - just a diaper. And yes, when I refer to wearing diapers as uncalled more, I do mostly mean messing and intentionally showing them off, like sagging pants or, again, a onesie or no bottoms at all. As long as you're actively hiding whatever you're doing and it wouldn't be noticed by the average person, then I really can't say anything. It's people who want attention that give the community look bad, and unfortunately, that extremely visible minority is something that we have to defuse.

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    Then again, people are are IC also don't show off their diapers and they also conceal them so saying none IC ABDLs' was moot. You should have left out the IC part because you make it sound like it's acceptable for IC people to do that but not AB/DLs.

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    You are dead wrong. People who do this are terrible for this community. It only brings negative attention.

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