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    Unhappy Treated Differently

    My Dad found my diapers and spoke to my mom some about them. Idk if he told her WHAT they were or not, but neither of them can look me in the eye or hold a conversation. I've hated my dad for years, so it's nothing really changed there except now we're not talking even more.

    My mom on the other hand... We used to be close. Like, as in the day before this happened we could talk for hours. Now she wont hold a conversation with me to save her life. It's depressing. I'm not ashamed of my ab/dl side. But I don't know how to bring it up. We almost talked about it today but we were yelling at each other so I decided to end the convo.

    Anyone else experience this? Where someone forgets who you were BEFORE they found out you liked diapers? s

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    Don't worry. This sort of thing blows over.
    It just takes a little time for everyone involved to adjust, that's all.

    Though an already strained relationship could get even more so, I guess, but don't give up!

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    It's sort of a shock. Give it some time and I expect things will get back to normal. You're still the same person, and they will come to see that. I don't think I'd push for further conversation on it. If your mom wants to know anything, you can have that talk but let it rest with her unless this period of shock goes more than a week or two.

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    Things will sway up and down for a while as your folks try to mull through the information. It doesn't hurt to have some information ready to hand them that will gloss over some of the major points to clear up the big questions or assumptions. Just as you have to get used to them again, they are doing with you too.

    For me the dust settled in a week, and things felt comfortable in 2-3 months like nothing has ever happened. That 2-3 month period was figuring out limits on acceptable behavior and discussion.

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    I agree, time will help. Just give your parents space and over time, they'll adjust. If your mom says anything to you, it'd be best to have some stuff ready to go (Google "understanding infantilism"). Also, if/when she talks to you, stay positive, it's more likely she'll have a better attitude about it if you're upbeat. Good luck

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    It'll pass. My mum and I at one point went months with barely a word only a couple of years ago, and it was over far more than that and now we're the best of friends. It just takes a little time, but soon enough things will start to get back to normal.

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    Hang in there. Show them you are still the same person you were before they found out, and always, always take the high road and try to be the best you can through all this. The better you handle yourself the better an impression you will make, and the more mature you will come across as. Given the nature of our fetish it is always a good idea to show that you really are a mature person and your AB persona is not a sign of immaturity, it is just a form of expression you enjoy in your life.

    Be respectful of them if they deserve it, and try hard if they do not. Parents are one of the few people in your life that deserve more respect than they often earn, and it is almost always better to err on the side of more respect than less with parents, so give that a go.

    Make sure you respect their personal boundaries if you wish them to respect yours, so be sure you are on top of that.

    When you are finally able to have a more open and frank discussion you can help them better understand this part of you. If you are honest and respectful your mom should eventually come around. Your dad may never come around and you may just need to accept that, but it will help if you can identify ways in which you can show him it does not make you any less of a person and that you are still an effective, functional and mature individual. If you do all the right things and he still does not accept you then it is on him, not you, and that is something you will just have to accept.

    Either way, if you are strong and good to those around you that is all you really can do. The rest is up to your parents, and you may just have to accept whatever the outcome is and try to do the best. May the outcome be favorable to you!

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    I don't know you or your father, but saying you hate him is sad. Hate is a strong word, and it will hurt you more then the one being hated. Give it time, then talk to your mom. I hope it works out for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jluke1957 View Post
    I don't know you or your father, but saying you hate him is sad. Hate is a strong word, and it will hurt you more then the one being hated. Give it time, then talk to your mom. I hope it works out for you.
    I actually can relate to this as my dad caused me to feel this way between the ages of 6 and 12. Eventually we moved on to a state where we had a good relationship, but I sure hated him when I was younger.

    In retrospect he brought it on himself. And I am saying this about the man that made me who I am today and I am very happy with who I am. I forgave him before he passed, and it was the best thing I ever did for myself.

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    I'm sorry, still new here so I don't know if you ever talked about it.
    But do your parents know about you being Gay? Did they take it the same way?

    Because you have a different relationship with your Dad and Mom, and you being closer to your Mom OK, I realize I'm prob stating the obvious here, but it seems like the best thing to do now is find a time where it's just her and you alone and talk with her. Her not talking may just be her simply not knowing what to think or say. Help her understand.

    Quote Originally Posted by Coney View Post
    Anyone else experience this? Where someone forgets who you were BEFORE they found out you liked diapers?
    Yes, very much so AND very recently at that!

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