As Rob said, the look and feel of the Real Fit underwear is good--the best on the market. They're form-fitting, don't sag, and look for most like regular underwear. But it's also true that they're not designed for floods or high capacity. That's just not what they're for. The Tena are better for that. But the cost is that they don't fit as well and are a bit more conspicuous under clothing, especially up front. So, between these two options, if you want the one that looks more like underwear, Depend wins. If you want greater absorption, go with the Tena.
-RMS