I came out to my wife about my AB side 2.5 months ago. I would say her reaction has been one of tolerance in that she lets me wear diapers to bed and suck on a paci in bed, but she isn't thrilled about it. Although this is good that she is tolerant, that is different than Acceptance. I am hopeful that she will someday really accept that this is part of who I am and not just some weird fantasy that she tolerates.
I was wondering if anyone else with a significant other understands what I am talking about and whether their S.O. made the transition from "tolerance" to "acceptance."