On adisc over the time I have been here i have noticed a trend that mostly only occurs here, that we focus heavily on abdl being non sexual and we are always quick to emphasize the non sexual aspects of on a personal level and marginalize it on a community level.
Which in the same stroke demonizes the sexual side of abdl and paints in a negative light. Isn't this an inherent failing as a support community?
I think generally speaking, though its impossible to study or say for certain, that for the majority of the abdl world this is at some level a sexual fetish. Thats an especially easy claim to make for Dlís i think. That being said im not claiming its entirely sexual just that its often there in some quantity for most.
Which confuses me as to why some people claim contrary and why the nonsexual side is so upheld and emphasized.
Anyway I think its really important to explore, understand and accept the sexual side for us that have it, because it is commonly if not massively a part of the binge/purge cycle. Many of us if not most go through massively feelings of shame during these occurrences and I think as a community we can often heighten this shame.
A side note is that I think many religious abdls struggle with this even more(mostly abrahamic religions) due to the concept of sin and sexual act being linked, its a common enough thread topic on adisc.
Anyway this is 4 am ramblings so use salt, and it is merely opinion/feeling that i have developed over time, but it is a failing i know I have had in the past, in which I instantly extol the non-sexual values first over anything else and have known many others who do.
Why are we often so scared to accept our sexual nature.