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    Default Before the first wear

    So, I got sample packs of a few different diapers from XP Medical. They are supposed to get here in the next couple days (and I'm impatiently watching the FedEx tracker in the meanwhile) Might sound a bit sudden, but deciding to join here was made around the time of dedicating to buy them (same day, actually).

    I guess why? It has nothing to do with identity clash... it isn't for anything sexual... I think it's a combination of being curious and practical. I definitely blame my old roommate for saying I should wear diapers for really getting the curiosity going...

    As for practical, I've got a few activities where bathroom breaks are interrupting, so I'm gonna test with those.



    But first, the delivery. I never order stuff, and my sister is visiting for a while. I also work evenings, so the chance of her stumbling across a box for me when there's never a box for me is high. I doubt she'd open it or look through my stuff after it disappears--she won't even look in my bookcase for a book I say is there--but she'll be just dying to know what it was and I'll never hear the end of it. Still thinking of what to tell her if she asks, and while I've been content to let her believe I have mountains of porn in my room, that's unlikely to work for a cubic foot box.


    One of the activities to try wearing with is when I'm out taking photos. Light changes quickly, and I've come to learn that the bladder of the nature photographer is actually a steel compression tank... Seriously, it's way too uncomfortable to hold it that long, and it's distracting while you're trying to set up the shot or get to another place until you find a toilet... a rare occurance where I take pictures.

    Concerns are basically that I have poor control once I start, so if I flood it on accident (disturbingly likely), it better be good and non-leaky... otherwise I'm gonna be out in cow town with wet pants. In the cold.


    Probably not right away, but perhaps at some point, I'd like to try wearing them at work. I'll have to see how using them out in Cow Land and Pine Tree Land go. It doesn't get very busy for me except over the holidays (where I actually changed employee type from customer service to counter fixture), but I don't really like taking toilet breaks at work... and not but rarely because of the state of the bathroom. Just don't like to.

    Of course, if I decide to wear at work it'll have to be super ultra mega discreet. Negligible chance of leaks. No noise louder than my pants (which are a bit noisy). No rising shirt. And no incredible wardrobe disasters (which I almost had once or twice).


    I'd also like to try wearing them to bed. This is mostly just curiosity of the experience. I also want to know why my old roommate said I should wear diapers. I'm not sure why he said that. As far as I can tell, I don't wet the bed, and I'm everything but incontinent, so he was probably pulling my leg... but why diapers? There was zero chance of him knowing I would think about taking his suggestion seriously.

    Umm... obviously, it can't leak. That'd be... worse... than leaking at work... ... Way worse. A kind of worse I'd rather never deal with. I'm not sure if I'll do the overnight test, honestly. In relation to my apocalyptic repercussion hinting, how do you people feel about it?

    Anyways, that was... longer... than I anticipated. Here's to a good first experiments and non-hair-pulling sister haranguing. And sleep. Without those terrifying peeing dreams.

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    Good luck, with trying them out. Let us know how it all goes for you.

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    XP has a excellent line of adult diapers, and all are available in sample packs. I would take a look at the diapers tests link on XP homepage, and depending on what samples you purchases and how the tests relate to what you think you want in a diaper, you could even order samples of some of the other diapers in the absorbancy range you think you would like, and be sure to keep short written notes on the samples as you use them so you can see what you actually liked. Diaper selection is really a personal choice, but reread what others have said about your choice(s) and hopefully, make a wise decision. Like Mattew said, let us know how it all goes for you.

    EDIT: I just reread your post, and the concern with your sister may be unfounded. Tell her the truth, as least so far as when you are out doing photography and your feel for the need of the protection the diapers offer. If she says why these instead of depends (or other retail store brands)
    telll her you have tried them, and they do not suit your needs as there has been a few times when those diapers were inadequate. Now, you are looking for something more suitable and these samples are to help you find what you really need. Again, good luck, and here is hoping your sister will understand your situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpottedLion View Post
    So, I got sample packs of a few different diapers from XP Medical. They are supposed to get here in the next couple days (and I'm impatiently watching the FedEx tracker in the meanwhile) Might sound a bit sudden, but deciding to join here was made around the time of dedicating to buy them (same day, actually).

    I guess why? It has nothing to do with identity clash... it isn't for anything sexual... I think it's a combination of being curious and practical. I definitely blame my old roommate for saying I should wear diapers for really getting the curiosity going...

    As for practical, I've got a few activities where bathroom breaks are interrupting, so I'm gonna test with those.



    But first, the delivery. I never order stuff, and my sister is visiting for a while. I also work evenings, so the chance of her stumbling across a box for me when there's never a box for me is high. I doubt she'd open it or look through my stuff after it disappears--she won't even look in my bookcase for a book I say is there--but she'll be just dying to know what it was and I'll never hear the end of it. Still thinking of what to tell her if she asks, and while I've been content to let her believe I have mountains of porn in my room, that's unlikely to work for a cubic foot box.


    One of the activities to try wearing with is when I'm out taking photos. Light changes quickly, and I've come to learn that the bladder of the nature photographer is actually a steel compression tank... Seriously, it's way too uncomfortable to hold it that long, and it's distracting while you're trying to set up the shot or get to another place until you find a toilet... a rare occurance where I take pictures.

    Concerns are basically that I have poor control once I start, so if I flood it on accident (disturbingly likely), it better be good and non-leaky... otherwise I'm gonna be out in cow town with wet pants. In the cold.


    Probably not right away, but perhaps at some point, I'd like to try wearing them at work. I'll have to see how using them out in Cow Land and Pine Tree Land go. It doesn't get very busy for me except over the holidays (where I actually changed employee type from customer service to counter fixture), but I don't really like taking toilet breaks at work... and not but rarely because of the state of the bathroom. Just don't like to.

    Of course, if I decide to wear at work it'll have to be super ultra mega discreet. Negligible chance of leaks. No noise louder than my pants (which are a bit noisy). No rising shirt. And no incredible wardrobe disasters (which I almost had once or twice).
    If you embark upon this path the inevitable result will be that someone is going to find out that you have, wear, and use diapers for the intended purpose. Just sayin'.

    From a practical standpoint diapers are convenient, you'll become more efficient, less bathroom breaks, etc.

    So, for practical applications your best bets are going to be the following brands, Tena Slip Maxi, Molicare Super, Abena X Plus, Dry 24/7, any of the Bambino line, Northshore brand, Absorbency Plus (with caveat). Cheap diapers ain't good, Good diapers ain't cheap.

    First step in wearing on the job is to plan your wardrobe around the diaper. For guys, loose fit jeans, some kind of diaper cover, onesie, or boxer briefs, a tuck in shirt, with a long flannel hoodie shirt that hangs below your butt, and a belt. Belt is very important. Clothes are the camouflage. Leak prevention comes down to three factors, how much you urinate and how fast, capacity of the diaper, and diaper fitting.

    Flooding is bad for leaks, if a high quality diaper is going to leak it's most likely going to happen if you are sitting down. When and if you flood it. Which you shouldn't. It'll take some getting used to. Capacity only becomes a true issue only if you are buying the common store-brands like Depend, Attends, CVS, etc. Avoid those like the plague. Any decent mid to premium diaper will take at least two full bladders, which is approximately 4 cups of liquid. Capacities for diapers are clearly listed on most diaper review websites.

    Diaper fitting. This is the most critical part of preventing leaks. Making sure that the diaper is the correct size for your body and that the leg gathers are snug and the leak guards (if the diaper has them) are free and standing not stuck to the mat. There are lots of ways to put on a diaper, and you'll likely do like most and lay down to put them on the first time. If you use powder or barrier cream, don't overdo it. Too much powder will clog the pores in the diaper's acquisition layer and prevent the diaper from doing it's job. Go light on the powder and cream, but do use it if you are going to be in the thing for multiple hours. Laying down to diaper yourself will likely give you a poor fit if you intend to do things like, walk. My recommendation is to learn to put the diaper on standing up. This way it'll fit and move as you would standing or sitting. Always fold the diaper in half lengthwise to break up the absorbents that get compressed in the packaging process before wearing. This simple step can improve initial uptake and wicking dramatically. Personally I always do bottom tapes first to make sure the diaper is snug around the legs, then I do the top tapes. When you do the taping you want it to be symmetrical, asymmetric taping can lead to a poor fit, a diaper that shifts or sags. A shifty saggy diaper is a leaky diaper.

    Carry a small roll of duct tape in your car to fix broken tapes. It will happen. Be prepared.



    I'd also like to try wearing them to bed. This is mostly just curiosity of the experience. I also want to know why my old roommate said I should wear diapers. I'm not sure why he said that. As far as I can tell, I don't wet the bed, and I'm everything but incontinent, so he was probably pulling my leg... but why diapers? There was zero chance of him knowing I would think about taking his suggestion seriously.

    Umm... obviously, it can't leak. That'd be... worse... than leaking at work... ... Way worse. A kind of worse I'd rather never deal with. I'm not sure if I'll do the overnight test, honestly. In relation to my apocalyptic repercussion hinting, how do you people feel about it?

    Anyways, that was... longer... than I anticipated. Here's to a good first experiments and non-hair-pulling sister haranguing. And sleep. Without those terrifying peeing dreams.
    Wearing a diaper to bed is a very pleasurable experience. Good quality diapers are soft and warm. A lot like a nice warm blanket. I'm sure you'll like it. As far as your roommate's comment, you're probably just subconsciously telegraphing your desire to wear diapers. It's okay. We're not going to judge you or call you out as a weirdo. The important thing is that you don't beat yourself up for your curiosity or desire to be padded. It's normal to feel apprehension, shame, or guilt about diapering. It'll pass quickly if you let it. Curiosity about wearing diapers doesn't mean that it has to be sexual at all. I'm a DL and for me it used to be a huge turn on, not so much anymore, it's just... nice. It feels good. There is something to be said for a nicely padded voluptuous butt that I find flattering on either sex.

    As far as leaking, don't buy cheap diapers, make sure they fit you and practice good diapering technique. I wore 24/7 for over a year and I can count my leaks on one hand and they were all due to poor fit and poor quality.

    Photography is not the only profession that can benefit or necessitates the need for a diaper. Astronauts, divers, security guards, tellers, pilots have used diapers to fulfill high-demand high-stress jobs. When you gotta go, you gotta go and sometimes a latrine simply isn't available to relieve yourself.
    Last edited by Lorica; 15-Jan-2015 at 06:59.

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    Also, some other tips:

    If you want to extend the life of your diaper, you may want to grab some boosters. Premium or not, sticking them in your diaper gives 'em a bit more absorbency and resistance to flooding.

    Try wearing your underwear up and over your diaper. This is doubly useful: it helps quiet crinkles of plastic diapers and, if your shirt rides up, people will see underwear rather than the diaper.
    Aaaand that's all I got. Happy diapering!

    (also, read the post above this one. It's helpful.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mattew View Post
    Good luck, with trying them out. Let us know how it all goes for you.
    You guys will be the first to hear. :P



    Quote Originally Posted by blondiewoof View Post
    XP has a excellent line of adult diapers, and all are available in sample packs. I would take a look at the diapers tests link on XP homepage, and depending on what samples you purchases and how the tests relate to what you think you want in a diaper, you could even order samples of some of the other diapers in the absorbancy range you think you would like, and be sure to keep short written notes on the samples as you use them so you can see what you actually liked. Diaper selection is really a personal choice, but reread what others have said about your choice(s) and hopefully, make a wise decision.
    One step ahead, one step behind. I did look at the tests page to get an idea of what to order, though I may order some more of the samples to get a wider opinion. I like your suggestion to keep brief notes while out and about... will definitely do that.



    I just reread your post, and the concern with your sister may be unfounded. Tell her the truth, as least so far as when you are out doing photography and your feel for the need of the protection the diapers offer. If she says why these instead of depends (or other retail store brands)
    telll her you have tried them, and they do not suit your needs as there has been a few times when those diapers were inadequate. Now, you are looking for something more suitable and these samples are to help you find what you really need. Again, good luck, and here is hoping your sister will understand your situation.
    May be.

    I'm not sure about outright telling her, though if she were to guess correctly I'd probably blush hard enough to incriminate me several times over. As for responding about other (cheaper and easier to obtain) diapers, won't happen. She doesn't think like that.

    I'm sure that if I did tell her why I was buying them, she'd probably laugh, say something about how I'm so practical, then weird. Maybe not in that order, and with lots of "OHMYGOD".



    Quote Originally Posted by StormTroper View Post
    and, if your shirt rides up, people will see underwear rather than the diaper.
    Actually, the one disaster involved a hint of weight loss, a loose belt, and way too even a hip. I'll take an upriding shirt any day. Good plan.

    - - - Updated - - -

    (I would put this reply with the others, but it's just so long that I feel it should be split up.)



    Quote Originally Posted by Lorica View Post
    If you embark upon this path the inevitable result will be that someone is going to find out that you have, wear, and use diapers for the intended purpose. Just sayin'.

    From a practical standpoint diapers are convenient, you'll become more efficient, less bathroom breaks, etc.
    I'm not too concerned with someone learning I am using a diaper for its intended purpose. If they're nosy about it... well, don't stick your nose in other peoples' business. If they are a poor bystander... I'll be too embarrassed to care, honestly. If they're my sister, it's what I get for ordering online while she's here.

    No, the practical use I see for using them in cases where I'd be discovered are better than any opinion they could have. With the exception of it involving ruining dad's bed that he's letting me use. Apocalyptic.



    So, for practical applications your best bets are going to be the following brands, Tena Slip Maxi, Molicare Super, Abena X Plus, Dry 24/7, any of the Bambino line, Northshore brand, Absorbency Plus (with caveat).
    I did not order the Dry 24/7. I feel like I might need to fix that.

    The caveat for the Absorbency+ is that it has no leak guards, instead relying on fast absorption, correct?



    First step in wearing on the job is to plan your wardrobe around the diaper. For guys, loose fit jeans, some kind of diaper cover, onesie, or boxer briefs, a tuck in shirt, with a long flannel hoodie shirt that hangs below your butt, and a belt. Belt is very important. Clothes are the camouflage.
    The most wardrobe planning I've ever done is making sure I don't wear my two identical shirts back to back so it doesn't look like I am wearing dirty clothes. But camouflage is good. Mostly got the basic wardrobe down. I'll use the photo test (and the bathroom mirror) to see what needs to be adjusted for work.



    Flooding is bad for leaks, if a high quality diaper is going to leak it's most likely going to happen if you are sitting down. When and if you flood it. Which you shouldn't. It'll take some getting used to. Any decent mid to premium diaper will take at least two full bladders, which is approximately 4 cups of liquid.
    I'm not sure about flooding, though if going in the diaper is like my experience at the urinal the other day, it won't be a problem. I do lots of standing at work... and running around like a chicken with its head cut off... and only sit while eating lunch. Only go once (since it's so interrupting), so definitely under the two bladderfuls limit.




    Diaper fitting. This is the most critical part of preventing leaks. Making sure that the diaper is the correct size for your body and that the leg gathers are snug and the leak guards (if the diaper has them) are free and standing not stuck to the mat. There are lots of ways to put on a diaper, and you'll likely do like most and lay down to put them on the first time.
    I was extra careful in getting the size right. Whether or not I put it on right the first time is a whole other matter.



    If you use powder or barrier cream, don't overdo it. Too much powder will clog the pores in the diaper's acquisition layer and prevent the diaper from doing it's job. Go light on the powder and cream, but do use it if you are going to be in the thing for multiple hours.
    I'll keep that in mind.



    Laying down to diaper yourself will likely give you a poor fit if you intend to do things like, walk. My recommendation is to learn to put the diaper on standing up. This way it'll fit and move as you would standing or sitting.
    I'll keep that in mind too. Probably laying down first to at least have put one on the easy way so I know about how it's supposed to fit, then get on doing it standing.



    Always fold the diaper in half lengthwise to break up the absorbents that get compressed in the packaging process before wearing. This simple step can improve initial uptake and wicking dramatically.
    Obviously good, but did not consider that. Will do.



    Personally I always do bottom tapes first to make sure the diaper is snug around the legs, then I do the top tapes. When you do the taping you want it to be symmetrical, asymmetric taping can lead to a poor fit, a diaper that shifts or sags. A shifty saggy diaper is a leaky diaper.
    And a leaky diaper is... not a good day for me.



    Carry a small roll of duct tape in your car to fix broken tapes. It will happen. Be prepared.
    If I had a car to carry it in, I'd do that. I'll figure out a way to get spare tape on my person.




    Wearing a diaper to bed is a very pleasurable experience. Good quality diapers are soft and warm. A lot like a nice warm blanket. I'm sure you'll like it.
    I like nice warm blankets. Should be enjoyable.



    As far as your roommate's comment, you're probably just subconsciously telegraphing your desire to wear diapers.
    That's what I'm afraid of.



    It's okay. We're not going to judge you or call you out as a weirdo. The important thing is that you don't beat yourself up for your curiosity or desire to be padded. It's normal to feel apprehension, shame, or guilt about diapering. It'll pass quickly if you let it.
    Been there, done that. Going into this with a healthy attitude. Most of the apprehension (justified or not) is currently revolving around my sister opening the box and telling everyone.



    Curiosity about wearing diapers doesn't mean that it has to be sexual at all. I'm a DL and for me it used to be a huge turn on, not so much anymore, it's just... nice. It feels good.
    I just feel like the term Diaper Lover is a bit loaded. Stupid English. I'm more of "Practically Diapered" (even if that one's loaded perfectly from my topic title).

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    Looks like you have pretty well thought the whole thing out, and I noticed that you are taking a lot of the advice given you in this thread. ATTENTION NEWBIES: We really are a good support group, and this thread and SpottedLion's latest response shows just that, so don't be afraid to ask questions when you have them.

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    Default Good Thoughts on SpottedLion's post, "Before the first wear"

    This is basically for everyone and especially those who are recent new members who have questions but is afraid to ask them.

    We are a support group, first and foremost, and indeed do support just about anything that is ADisc related - although sometimes the support may be hard to see.

    Everyone should read SpottedLion's post, "Before the first wear", and notice the concern he has in his opening post, the replies given so for, and how the replies are acknowledged by SpottedLion. The entire thread shows as good as any I have seen, and better than most, just how supportive this group is.

    So don't be afraid to express an opinion or ask a question about something.
    There is only ONE dumb questions, and that is the one that is never asked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpottedLion View Post
    I just feel like the term Diaper Lover is a bit loaded. Stupid English. I'm more of "Practically Diapered" (even if that one's loaded perfectly from my topic title).
    I started out somewhat in a similar fashion as you. Casual curiosity, and then I started liking it. I digress, my apologies, I should not project myself upon others.

    Purely from a utilitarian standpoint. It's not all that uncommon for professionals to wear diapers on the job because their work environment or situation is not conducive to convenient bathroom breaks. Really, nothing to be embarrassed about. People just don't like to admit it, especially supposed "tough guy" professions like construction equipment operators.

    If you're like me, average build, close to six foot tall, 36 waist, 200 pounds, and an active lifestyle. Your best bet is going to be Tena Slip Maxi. They're expensive to get in the U.S.. If you need to move around, climb ladders and such, and you need decent concealable diaper that can take a flood, doesn't make too much noise, good odor control, it's my go-to diaper in that situation. Only downside is that they do expand quite a bit when soaked, and under tight pants you'll have a noticeable diaper bulge. Under loose fit jeans, you can't really tell. Otherwise they're great for daytime active wear.

    Also, when in doubt get one size larger diaper than you think you need because there is no real sizing standard among diaper manufacturers. Medium Molicares fit me perfect where a medium Dry 24/7 is this huge honkin thing, and an Abena M4 fits good but I can't do much because they are so thick.

    It's trial and error. Find a sample you think you like, order a bag, wear them for a week to test them. In the end you probably settle in on one or two brands that fit you good and do the job you require of them.

    While I'm not a fan of "cloth" backed diapers. If you're out and about on a hot day, plastic backed can get sweaty and uncomfortable. The Tena breathable diapers are very comfy, very absorbant, and quiet. My only problem with them is that because they're cloth backed they can be "weepy" and if you're not really hydrated they'll start smelling odd. Not distinctly of pee, but kind of a weird smoky smell, almost like burned microwave popcorn. I found it could be countered by swiping some of my deodorant on the outside of the diaper front to back to cover the smell.

    Cheers!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lorica View Post
    I started out somewhat in a similar fashion as you. Casual curiosity, and then I started liking it. I digress, my apologies, I should not project myself upon others.
    No need to apologize.



    Purely from a utilitarian standpoint. It's not all that uncommon for professionals to wear diapers on the job because their work environment or situation is not conducive to convenient bathroom breaks. Really, nothing to be embarrassed about. People just don't like to admit it, especially supposed "tough guy" professions like construction equipment operators.
    I guess part of the reason I'm going to give this a shot is because I don't really feel that constrained about some things. Being called a girl once every couple weeks because I have long hair? whatever. Why go distracted and daintily when I could just go?



    If you're like me, average build, close to six foot tall, 36 waist, 200 pounds, and an active lifestyle. Your best bet is going to be Tena Slip Maxi.
    And a smock. I need to learn to sew. I think I'd look good in a gown. I've just discovered there is a very bad shirt upriding issue, and I do a lot of the reaching far over my head at work that makes it happen. (Besides, I don't like showing my arms and stuff anyways, so a longer shirt would be my kind of thing.)

    It looks like XP Medical has discontinued their stock of that and they'll eventually run out. Where have you been getting them?



    They're expensive to get in the U.S.. If you need to move around, climb ladders and such, and you need decent concealable diaper that can take a flood, doesn't make too much noise, good odor control, it's my go-to diaper in that situation. Only downside is that they do expand quite a bit when soaked, and under tight pants you'll have a noticeable diaper bulge. Under loose fit jeans, you can't really tell. Otherwise they're great for daytime active wear.
    I'm pretty active during the day (unless I've decided it's a programming fun times day), and I think my pants count as loose, so that seems like a good choice. I'll probably order the sample of them in time for my next next weekend, or would it be smarter to order sooner?

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