Is it a good idea to get to know ABDL people online for a non-sexual, diaper-free, romantic relationship? Where can I go to find a someone who's into diapers but doesn't make them a priority in a relationship? Or is that like finding a needle in an Internet designed exclusively for haystacks...not...needlestacks?
Of course, I wouldn't close off opportunities with "real" people in my nearby area; I'd still be open to non-ABDL relationships, and if I found someone non-ABDL, I'd stop searching for an ABDL partner as long as my current relationship exists.
Because I want a romantic (NOT sexual) partner who is ABDL, Fetlife and other websites may be too focused on sex and the fetish to be a good option.
I just don't like the idea of dating somebody who is disgusted by what I find appealing, and having to be very careful to hide this very secret part of me until the time is right, whereby I'm forced to tell her and hope she accepts me "despite my flaws." I'd much rather find somebody who shares ABDL as something we can talk about and discuss together, as a unique rare thing that separates us from the rest of the world. Rather than having someone to hide things from, I want someone who knows what it's like to hide.
That said, I know all of that's pointless if the person in question isn't compatible. An ABDL fetish doesn't even make the top 20 qualities I'm looking for in a partner, but I figure that if there's an ABDL who's right from me, why not try to find her? That said, a website with an overly sexualized atmosphere probably isn't good for getting to know someone mentally/emotionally. Do I have a reasonable chance of finding an ABDL woman who, at the very least, wants to really get to know somebody before they think about getting romantic? Is there any reason doing this might be a bad idea?
Thanks for reading this!