This is my first thread outside of the Introductions, but I feel it is something that should be discussed.
Personal Experience: I was talking to a friend in a class of mine a year ago, and she brought up a television show about strange addictions. Well, she said there was a "baby-man" who wore diapers and had pacifiers. Essentially, he was an AB/DL. She had a very tentative and misguided view on this person, calling him a pedophile.
This is an event that calls for a bit of concern. Not that this one, somewhat ignorant, student called someone a pedophile, but that this is how the world sees us now. Television programs misrepresent many groups, and AB/DLs are no exception.
For shock value, someone like Tyra Banks will find an extreme example to show off to the vast majority of people. In response to this, people compare an unknown(Infantilism) to the most similar known(in this case, I suppose pedophilia).
I also want to note that I understand we might never truly be accepted by the mainstream, but I am irritated we are put in the same group as people who harm and sexually abuse children. I like to think of the difference between being a pedophile and an AB/DL as this: A person wants to have sex with a millionaire(Pedophilia) vs. A person wants to be a millionaire(Infantilism).
There is, however, a beacon of hope. Understanding Infantilism.org is the most accurate source, at least on my account, for outsiders to get a glimpse of how we view ourselves.
Bottom line: Continue studying, those who can, because maybe we will always be mocked and misunderstood as a group, but at least we won't be so incorrectly portrayed. Just ask yourself: "Am I a pedophile? Have I ever sexually abused a child? Is what I do wrong?" If the answer is no, and you are an AB/DL, then you have been misrepresented. No matter how secretive you are about your private life, you, me, and everybody should try our best to understand ourselves.
If I have any misunderstandings or am missing anything, please add whatever you feel is necessary.