As someone who has wet the bed most of my life, it's not often that I run into any others my age who are in the same boat. And even then, I have worn diapers every night for about a decade now, which even fewer people have done. So let me tell you what happened last weekend... (All names have been changed to protect the innocent)
My friend Tamara was talking about our other friend Brittany, who is very close to her but not as close to me. Tamara had a bit to drink (lol) so she wasn't watching what she was saying and accidentally dropped a bombshell. This is how the conversation went, as best as I can remember:
Me: "So I haven't seen Brittany in a few weeks"
Tamara: "She was over at my house last night... she peed the bed again"
Me: "Wait, what?"
Tamara: "Yeah, I mean it's not a big deal, she pees the bed all the time"
Me (trying to be clever): "You should get her some pull-ups"
Tamara: "She wears them! Well, usually, but she forgot last night and it got all over everywhere, she was so embarrassed... oh my god don't tell her I told you this, I'm such a blabbermouth"
Me: "She shouldn't be embarrassed! It's nothing to be ashamed of"
Tamara: "Yeah, well she gets so upset if she forgets to put on her... (hestitates) 'pull-ups' or forgets to bring them, because I have to help her clean up and..."
Me: "OK, I won't say anything about that"
Brittany doesn't know that I'm a bedwetter or wear diapers, and I can't tell her about what Tamara said... but I wanna figure out some way to bring up bedwetting or diapers in private conversation with her (maybe I could make it about me and hope she'll open up to me in return).
Finally a friend my age in the same situation as me! I don't wanna sound selfish, especially if Brittany isn't very happy about it (I don't know if she likes wearing diapers or not), but if I could get a real-life friend to talk to who knows exactly what my life is like ('cause she also lives it), I'd love it.
Has anyone else had an "I'm not alone" moment like that? Any advice for how to handle it?