I'm sure I may have discussed this in the past but it is something that I find really frustrating.
I have great difficulty expressing my needs (which I might add are very simple) to my partner when I'm quite regressed.
The thing is, that all I need is to be acknowledged appropriately to the level of regression I'm in.
I have discussed this with her, and while she doesn't actually object to my regressing, she's not all that embracing of it either.
She knows that my little has kind of attached itself to her as a mommy figure, but she makes me work really hard for any attention....and then it's not much more than a hug.
(Ok...to those struggling on their own in the dark, I apologise for seeming ungrateful, it's just that ... You know what happens when you put candy in front of a baby)
I think her reluctance to entertain my little state may be a kind of a last stand. (I'm sure she'd prefer that I was just a regular guy..) She knows she has a lot of power when I'm so regressed, and while it is all so subtle, she does seem to be using it against me. This of course leaves me very frustrated and cross.
Anyone who regresses will know that at any time you can flip back into adult mode, but that invariably kills the moment. When she asks me "what do you want? " I can't answer because my regressed state is non verbal apart from very simple words. Deep in the back of my mind I know how to respond, but to do so would thrust me out of my regressed state. OMG this is all so complicated..... not really for me, but trying to get a non-regresser to understand.......
Sorry, it does sound like a rant, but I'm really just sharing my experience and wondering how others cope with situations like this.