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    Thumbs up my partner problems solved

    Babylue posted for me earlier but I just reposting to say I managed it finally.
    And it was taking different peoples advice too thank you all

    Its amazing to feel better by taking a small every day thing and getting it turned in your head in to many odd thoughts and feelings but in the end its amazing how complete you feel taking that leap of faith

    But thank you to every body for suggestions
    Last edited by Eulogy; 21-Nov-2014 at 01:47. Reason: Removing Complaint about moderator action.

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    I don't think the mod in question (Accepted) felt that the question was asked for medical advice, it's just that questions about how to do something physical is always likely to receive advice which incorporates medical aspects. I've been guilty of advising strategies without having all the relevant medical knowledge, and I'm probably not the only one.

    Anyway, well done on your pee pee! The first time is always the toughest to prepare and relax yourself for (this is true of so much more than diapers), and it's nice that you seem to have enjoyed taking the wetting plunge.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SirNapsALot View Post
    I don't think the mod in question (Accepted) felt that the question was asked for medical advice, it's just that questions about how to do something physical is always likely to receive advice which incorporates medical aspects. I've been guilty of advising strategies without having all the relevant medical knowledge, and I'm probably not the only one.

    Anyway, well done on your pee pee! The first time is always the toughest to prepare and relax yourself for (this is true of so much more than diapers), and it's nice that you seem to have enjoyed taking the wetting plunge.
    The question was about the mental black and this was made clear but or well the right people have been contacted about this we better leave that lol

    Anyway I am so proud of her for what she was able to do, it was hard and she was able to do it, its going to be hard for her with having the other problems but hey life is not easy right hehe

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    Quote Originally Posted by babylue View Post
    The question was about the mental black and this was made clear but or well the right people have been contacted about this we better leave that lol

    Anyway I am so proud of her for what she was able to do, it was hard and she was able to do it, its going to be hard for her with having the other problems but hey life is not easy right hehe
    Oh I know it was to do with mental health issues. I read the thread, I'm just saying that things are always easier after the first time. That's probably especially true of actions hindered by psychological stress, because you often realise that the fear you have is irrational.

    Anyway, well done in your leap of faith, Babypink.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SirNapsALot View Post
    Oh I know it was to do with mental health issues. I read the thread, I'm just saying that things are always easier after the first time. That's probably especially true of actions hindered by psychological stress, because you often realise that the fear you have is irrational.

    Anyway, well done in your leap of faith, Babypink.
    Ya she is a good girl proud of her

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    Looks like it's up to me to risk being the badguy for the sake of clarity. This isn't really the place to be posting threads giving us blow by blow descriptions (and badly spelled ones at that) of the status of your diaper and up to the minute updates about everything you're experiencing while trying to urinate. A better place to do so might be a blog, or perhaps one of the other diaper discussion boards that cater to that kind of thing.

    If you have legitimate questions, by all means feel free to ask them (especially if you've browsed around a bit first to see if they've already been asked and answered). It's just (to my eyes at least) you came across as rather spammy and attention seeking. I'm sure that's not your intent, but I hope you'll take this as the honest feedback that it is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by irnub View Post
    Looks like it's up to me to risk being the badguy for the sake of clarity. This isn't really the place to be posting threads giving us blow by blow descriptions (and badly spelled ones at that) of the status of your diaper and up to the minute updates about everything you're experiencing while trying to urinate. A better place to do so might be a blog, or perhaps one of the other diaper discussion boards that cater to that kind of thing.

    If you have legitimate questions, by all means feel free to ask them (especially if you've browsed around a bit first to see if they've already been asked and answered). It's just (to my eyes at least) you came across as rather spammy and attention seeking. I'm sure that's not your intent, but I hope you'll take this as the honest feedback that it is.
    Clearly you DID not read the post and clearly have no respect for people that are VERY new to this world and people that have mental blocks thanks to child abuse !!!! it was not a problem just with the diaper but with the hole action in diaper or not, I know from a few posts I read from the past that people have had this problem so I thought or I would ask see what people would say but you have now made my partner not wanting to even use this site anymore already a new ABDL to the world and what do you do be foolish and judge them and make them feel worse for having a real problem thanks to the past.

    Anyone else that thinks its anything but us asking about help on the HOLE topic not just nappies can stay away from us we sick of it, I have seem really silly nappy wetting posts and what do you do when wetting post and NO complates but someone asks for real help you have a go ... please be ashamed of yourselfs I am not ashamed of brining my partner here!!!

    Sorry this is not to everyone but we had a few crummy replys now and its made me and my partner feel really unwelcome feel like we can't ask for help from others we know had simler problems and we don't feel some people are willing read before jumping the gun, My partner as only just joined this world and I mean her first nappy was on about 10:30AM UK and came out of it at around 11PM she has had this shy blader problem thanks to abuse at a young age what as created a mental block but I know people have used means to over come simler and asking here was the right place but if you say its not then there is no point in the site full stop we are REAL people and REAL adult babies this is NOT a fetish and this is not something sick to us but the replies have made us maybe it is just some sick fetish.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babylue View Post
    Clearly you DID not read the post and clearly have no respect for people that are VERY new to this world and people that have mental blocks thanks to child abuse !!!! it was not a problem just with the diaper but with the hole action in diaper or not, I know from a few posts I read from the past that people have had this problem so I thought or I would ask see what people would say but you have now made my partner not wanting to even use this site anymore already a new ABDL to the world and what do you do be foolish and judge them and make them feel worse for having a real problem thanks to the past.


    Quote Originally Posted by babylue
    Hey there my partner is having a big problem peeing not just in her nappy but in the big peoples potty and we would like to know if anyone else is like this and know of anyway to have this sorted?

    She as been wanting over come the bathroom problem for some time now she wants to wet the nappy shes getting upset as the same problem that she as in the potty.

    thanks for any help u can offer
    First of all, we are not your enemy, nor are we trying to attack you. You took a message that calmly and clearly explained why your previous post may have been viewed as less than desirable and took it as a direct attack on you. Irnub was not attacking you. He pretty clearly stated that he did not believe it was your intent to be spammy or attention seeking, but that other people might view your post that way. He was giving relatively kind and honest feedback on your post, which may I remind you, was locked by moderators for violating the site rules. You are the one attacking him, not the other way around.

    At no point here or in your previous thread was child abuse mentioned before you brought it up. In addition, nobody was judging you. Irnub explained why you may have been less than successful with your last post and was fairly careful not to directly attack you.



    Quote Originally Posted by babylue View Post
    Anyone else that thinks its anything but us asking about help on the HOLE topic not just nappies can stay away from us we sick of it, I have seem really silly nappy wetting posts and what do you do when wetting post and NO complates but someone asks for real help you have a go ... please be ashamed of yourselfs I am not ashamed of brining my partner here!!!
    Once again, we are not attacking you, nor are we creating a double standard. You received the same response anyone would from your post. Keep in mind that a lot of the language you used in your previous post is extremely commonly used by people looking to get off on the responses of random forum users. It threw up a ton of red flags to me, but I calmly gave you advice on the topic.



    Quote Originally Posted by babylue View Post
    Sorry this is not to everyone but we had a few crummy replys now and its made me and my partner feel really unwelcome feel like we can't ask for help from others we know had simler problems and we don't feel some people are willing read before jumping the gun, My partner as only just joined this world and I mean her first nappy was on about 10:30AM UK and came out of it at around 11PM she has had this shy blader problem thanks to abuse at a young age what as created a mental block but I know people have used means to over come simler and asking here was the right place but if you say its not then there is no point in the site full stop we are REAL people and REAL adult babies this is NOT a fetish and this is not something sick to us but the replies have made us maybe it is just some sick fetish.
    I'm really sorry that you feel unwelcome, but I really feel that overall, ADISC and its users have been very welcoming to you. With the possible exception of that one post above, everyone has been very kind to you. Despite the potential rule-breaking nature of your last thread, almost everyone in it tried to honestly help you with your problem.

    To be completely honest, the main problem with your previous thread was the phrasing, not the content. Figuring out how to wet a diaper is a very common question for new ABs and DLs, and we have plenty of people who have had similar experiences. We also had no possible way of knowing that child abuse was involved until this post right here. If past abuse is a likely reason for this, it's definitely a problem for a licensed, qualified doctor or therapist to help you deal with, and definitely not something you want random people on the internet advising you about.

    Also, please be careful with the "real" adult babies thing. What makes someone's identity/interest more "real" than another's? Saying that you're a "real" adult baby while other people are "fake" is a direct attack on them - something we've all been exceptionally careful not to do. In addition, lots of people on any AB/DL website are interested in ageplay/diapers as a fetish, and insulting a large part of the community because you think you're better than them is no way to make friends.

    We here at ADISC would absolutely love to have you around and chat with you. We'd just prefer to keep things civil, open, and honest. Plenty of people would be happy to give you advice on issues you might have, but if you respond to constructive criticism with an attack, you're not going to have any luck here or anywhere else on the internet (or in real life).

    Thanks for hanging out at ADISC and I really hope your experiences are better from here on out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KatelynG View Post
    First of all, we are not your enemy, nor are we trying to attack you. You took a message that calmly and clearly explained why your previous post may have been viewed as less than desirable and took it as a direct attack on you. Irnub was not attacking you. He pretty clearly stated that he did not believe it was your intent to be spammy or attention seeking, but that other people might view your post that way. He was giving relatively kind and honest feedback on your post, which may I remind you, was locked by moderators for violating the site rules. You are the one attacking him, not the other way around.

    At no point here or in your previous thread was child abuse mentioned before you brought it up. In addition, nobody was judging you. Irnub explained why you may have been less than successful with your last post and was fairly careful not to directly attack you.


    Once again, we are not attacking you, nor are we creating a double standard. You received the same response anyone would from your post. Keep in mind that a lot of the language you used in your previous post is extremely commonly used by people looking to get off on the responses of random forum users. It threw up a ton of red flags to me, but I calmly gave you advice on the topic.



    I'm really sorry that you feel unwelcome, but I really feel that overall, ADISC and its users have been very welcoming to you. With the possible exception of that one post above, everyone has been very kind to you. Despite the potential rule-breaking nature of your last thread, almost everyone in it tried to honestly help you with your problem.

    To be completely honest, the main problem with your previous thread was the phrasing, not the content. Figuring out how to wet a diaper is a very common question for new ABs and DLs, and we have plenty of people who have had similar experiences. We also had no possible way of knowing that child abuse was involved until this post right here. If past abuse is a likely reason for this, it's definitely a problem for a licensed, qualified doctor or therapist to help you deal with, and definitely not something you want random people on the internet advising you about.

    Also, please be careful with the "real" adult babies thing. What makes someone's identity/interest more "real" than another's? Saying that you're a "real" adult baby while other people are "fake" is a direct attack on them - something we've all been exceptionally careful not to do. In addition, lots of people on any AB/DL website are interested in ageplay/diapers as a fetish, and insulting a large part of the community because you think you're better than them is no way to make friends.

    We here at ADISC would absolutely love to have you around and chat with you. We'd just prefer to keep things civil, open, and honest. Plenty of people would be happy to give you advice on issues you might have, but if you respond to constructive criticism with an attack, you're not going to have any luck here or anywhere else on the internet (or in real life).

    Thanks for hanging out at ADISC and I really hope your experiences are better from here on out.
    Really we read the rules over and over or and once again over again and not one time did the user say this is what he felt others might of seen it as so sorry you hole post dose not stand up, if things like this was said the sure I would of agreed but he even stated he was going to be seen as the bad guy for that post.

    I also stated very clearly it was only aimed at few members so get of that waggen please, when I did say sorry to others it does not affect this is including you and everyone else, no rules was broken or rudeness was past on, I even said in this post to another user that said about it we let that go and carry on maybe not in them words but something on them lines so NO other user should of dragged the past in to this post like that.

    I do like some of the users here hell I know some away from this site and I agree most have been very welcoming for me and my partner but they have made me and her feel really ill for asking a lergit question, if people are going to be closed minded NOT to read a full post before replying its not my fault if I blood snap back as the not only disrespecting the post but there also disrespecting the topic and this was at the time Mental Blocks, Child Abuse and and this also relates around mental health what all are topics what are related to many of our ABDL lifestyles.

    Sorry if you think I been over the top but I have to deal with how upset this as gotten my partner and how she now feels about a scene and world she really wanted to be part of, she opted to come here with me as its not facebook and we would not be faced with porn pushed in our faces but soon as we add a little adult topic part of a post as this is what we did asking a question I even stated she had this problem away from nappies and we was told we was doing XYZ when we bloody well was not I not going to play nice when people are jumping the gun sorry but NO.

    You also said this:
    'things civil, open, and honest.

    Some users do follow this and some don't but and when a set of users post with intent for real help just cos others in the past might not of we automaticlly seen as that is a bad topic and rules that are NOT there are then created my mods I made sure we read the rules many of times and even again many more times tonight, my replys tonight might be bordering braking them rules as it dose point some words here and there but end of the day it works both ways we never broke the darn rules there for we should and do have the right to defend.

    Far as I know my partner as requested to leave the site what is a bloody shame and why would I need to be here if she's not so I guess that was two members lost because your other memebrs didn't know how to follow what you stated right there.

    I am sorry if I seem two forward or even a little bit over reacting but this is just bloody stupid I seen some really pointless and rule braking posts what you can tell are just for fun but still rule braking all the same and they get away with it we don't brake the rules and told be are.


    I will finish on this note, I am sorry for anyone that is reading this that IS not part of this Sorry this was not for your eyes.
    Last edited by babylue; 21-Nov-2014 at 03:34. Reason: Added more

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    Quote Originally Posted by babylue View Post
    I would of agreed but he even stated he was going to be seen as the bad guy for that post.
    A lot of people don't respond well to feedback, and no one likes to be attacked personally. By that statement I simply meant that I was volunteering to be the one to explain to you why some people were treating your posts oddly and risk the backlash in the event you took it badly.

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