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    so without going into much detail i was abused sexually at a young age... some of it included forced diapering and wetting, forced masturbation etc.
    has anyone else experianced this kind or any other sexual abuse that has contributed to their AB-DL fetish's later in life?

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    I got smacked around a lot growing up and have no doubt that it led in some way to my neurotic character and jumpiness. The ABDL thing emerged on its own from having a hard life. I was forced to grow up quickly. I guess subconsciously, my mind sees diapers as a way to regress without regression completely because I'm not into the Adult Baby thing at all but wearing diapers makes me incredibly relaxed mentally and physically. I actually have dreams when I wear diapers. I can't remember the last time I dreamt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jayjay213 View Post
    so without going into much detail i was abused sexually at a young age... some of it included forced diapering and wetting, forced masturbation etc.
    has anyone else experianced this kind or any other sexual abuse that has contributed to their AB-DL fetish's later in life?
    Absolutely. I experienced a lot of abuse from my father, including forced diapering at the age of six. I developed a 'thing' for diapers shortly afterwards, probably before the age of seven. Even at that age, I knew it was pretty strange and I learned to hide it, but it never went away.

    One thing I've always found interesting on this site is that many members don't know how or why their fetish started and they wish they knew what caused it.. I know exactly how mine developed and I just wish I could forget.
    Last edited by Starrunner; 16-Nov-2014 at 22:51.

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    I heard someone once say people stop when pain starts. That has stuck with me a lot. I had a nice childhood growing up, but it ended prematurely when I was 12/13, I wasn't ready for it to end, I was very young, certainly too young to enter an adult world. I think this is a very interesting subject, albeit a very sad one. From my experience (and that isn't a lot of experience!) the most people I've spoken to who are AB/DL/Little etc. have had some experience of trauma in their childhood. I know when things went bad for me I cried myself to sleep for years thinking I had lost my innocence, and I could never be a child again. I realised some years back that the innocent child in me had never gone away, she hadn't died, she was just hiding because I'd had to learn to survive a certain way to fit into this adult world..

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    Quote Originally Posted by starrunner View Post
    One thing I've always found interesting on this site is that many members don't know how or why their fetish started and they wish they knew what caused it.. I know exactly how mine develpped and I just wish I could forget.
    I always feel very sad when this part of the ABDL origins topic comes up. I'm one of the people who fits this category. I have no idea why I like diapers. It started before my memory kicked in. I had a wonderful childhood with a loving family and simply grew up with a secret interest in diapers. I think it's undoubtedly true that childhood abuse has played a part in the formation of ABDL desires for a notable percentage of the overall community, and I'm mostly glad that people who had some really bad experiences can have this as a way to find comfort and happiness.

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    This is a very touchy subject. Although I don't fit in this category, I feel sad for some people that actually do fit. Some can't help being who they are. I personally can't believe childhood abuse played any kind of role (Maybe for very few) in AB/DL desires. Maybe they discovered their AB/DL desires someway different, but not all AB/DL's are triggered by Childhood abuse, we all have different triggers on what condones to this precisely.

    As to archie for this,



    I'm mostly glad that people who had some really bad experiences can have this as a way to find comfort and happiness.
    I am in the same boat, glad people find ways of staying positive rather than moaping about this for the rest of their lives. Being negative all the time is just not healthy and people know it but sometimes, they can't/may not control it and that is ok. No one here is going to judge how you handle things. Feel better at your own pace.

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    I certainly agree that an abusive or traumatic childhood is not a necessary ingredient in becoming ABDL. However, I am another who falls in the category of those for whom it likely played a role. I know I experienced two separate instances of sexual abuse between the ages of four and five. One involved forced diapering, the other did not. I have vague memories of diaper interest which predate those instances, but I know my diaper interest as well as other unusual interests increased in intensity from the age of five to seven. These interests receded and remained somewhat subdued until everything came flooding back during puberty. At this point in life I value ABDL as a special part of who I am, and a great coping mechanism. I'm not too worried about what did or didn't influence the way I turned out. My hope is to make the best of what life has dealt me, and to be the best person I can.

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    Yes.....,

    I was sexually abused when I was 4 and it went on until I was 5. When my family found out they sent me away to live with my mom again and never spoke to us again.

    I blamed myself and because no one had talked to me about what happened it was a consuming thought in my mind, I wanted to know more so by the age of 6 I was obsessed with porn, my whole childhood was overly sexualized because of it and a a result I never got to be innocent. I never got to grow up. I feel like I was trapped in that time period emotionally and mentally and now imtrying to give that little girl the childhood she deserves.

    So for me ....yes

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    For those who don't believe that you were misdirected in your up-bringing...

    I consider lack of age appropriate life teachings, or teachings that are not age appropriate... as well as shaming and shunning, to be aspects of neglect, and abuse respectively...

    Telling children what to think, and what to believe... rather than how to think, and how to believe... is another instance of skewing the perspectives of each person... individually, and collectively...

    Being sheltered, then popped into the harsh realities... and being constantly under an avalanche of the harsh realities, with little to no reprieve or shelter...

    These are some examples that I would consider as sublime abuses, and neglecting of sorts... that we may assume as normal, if not some sort of happy, traditional, and comfortable existence...

    Even for those of us, who have had more obvious-tangible issues in growing up as a child... our normal existence was a cloak of sorts to the realities of our abuses... and ignorance being bliss... well, it really isn't... is it?



    There's a myriad of things, perhaps much more subtle because they are rather commonplace... that can attribute to any sort of maladaptive behaviors...

    I'm not going to say that AB or DL is any sort of bad... but, I do have to wonder if it isn't indicative of some sort of experiential disruption so-to-speak...

    And as ambiguous as that may be or seem... I'm not ready to presume that it simply materialized with out an etiology... this isn't exactly a controlled study either, yet our references are rather contingent on our individual perspectives, which alternative perceptions would skew all the while...

    What we may need to better discern causative, from casual relationships... may be akin to a land-mark, that we can all agree on what it is, where it is, and to what degree it looms...

    The hazards of this may bring trauma to those who were otherwise situated comfortably with themselves, and their experiences... even if it brought something of a more congruent state to the more obviously tampered sorts...

    So, in the end... or the bigger picture... we may simply have to decide that the origins of AB/DL, while perplexing, is not all that important for day-to-day living... or, whether or not it can or should be attached to any particular events, conditions, or series of either or both...

    Whether a coping mechanism, or a fluke of nature... reconciliation of AB/DL proclivities, and that with those requirements of healing from devastating traumas, might need to remain rather compartmentalized, and reconciled on each basis and merit respectively...

    Respectfully,
    -Marka

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