I had a really unusual situation happen this afternoon that got me thinking. I went to visit my step dad who has recently been admitted to a rehab center after having hip replacement surgery. He is not per say elderly or anything. He is in his late 60's and in possession of all his faculties. The hospital staff decided he needed extended rehab care because there was/is concern with regard to mobility issues while his hip sets up and heals, etc. So I walk in and he's sitting up in a wheel chair, dressed, looked good, watching a ball game. I asked him how things were going and he was telling me about how they don't want him doing anything on his own, Like nothing on his own at all! So while I'm standing there talking to him his nurse walks in and I'm a normal guy and I don't know what the deal with nurses is ( Maybe the female population can enlighten us on this ) but his nurse walks in and the first thing I'm thinking is wow, " She's his nurse?" She says hi to him and says just let me know when you are ready to turn in and I'll come in and help you with "what we need to do" and then you'll be all settled in and comfortable for the night. His bed was made and looked very clean and orderly and she sets down what appeared to be a hospital gown and...."A Diaper" Now I'm only taking a guess here but what I was thinking based on what my step dad was telling me was that in the early stages of his hip healing the idea is they don't want him doing anything that can endanger the hip replacement including moving the wrong way, etc. She set the stuff down on the end of the bed, says what she said to him all the while patting the hospital gown and the diaper. I said nothing to the poor guy about it because I actually felt sorry for him. While the nurse was standing there I was of course leaning against the wall behind her thinking to myself, " Yah ok I think I'll just have a major stroke right here." I'm not kidding, the air conditioning was going and I think I broke out into a sweat! The whole thing brought something interesting to light for me though and that's the comparison of "Need" vs "Want". With something like that with a patient in a medical setting of course for health, welfare, safety, etc of the patient.....There is the need. I'm sure that he as well as any other person in that situation is probably thinking, "Crap! I hate this! How humiliating! How embarrassing! ". You quite literally have a nurse, another adult coming in and saying this is for your own good that I need to put you in a diaper at night which probably invokes within that patient the feeling of embarrassment, dread, and anything else. They the patient are stuck in the position of being treated much like a baby whether they want it...or not! This made me think about the "Need" vs "Want" thing again. Within the ab/dl realm most would say that diapers and other associated items are present and this is based on "Want" but I was thinking, yah but I'm guessing that there is a huge need there as well probably for a lot of people on this site and admittedly that includes me.
Something to think about though. We start off little, grow up and out baby things, for ab's that growing up and out never really actually happens and then you go through life as a working adult, you drive a car, you maintain a home, you have a social life, you pay bills, you are for all intents and purposes an adult then....
You are older and you suddenly find that you have someone who is an adult but much younger then you walking into your room in a rehab place telling you that they'll put a diaper on you and an appropriate outfit so that you will be all cosy for the evening ( I swear before I left she came back and said exactly that.... Que the stroke! ).
I guess what I'm saying in the grand scheme of things in this long story is that while for medical purposes there is "Need" and for AB's there is "Want" I guess for a lot of AB's there is and always will very much be, "Need"