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Thread: I Had a Conversation About Infantilism With Mom

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    My mother has known about this for a long time now. I never really could build up the courage to talk to her about this. My mother was always a vanilla thinking person. She didn't seem like a person that would understand. From what happened last night made me wish I explained about it to her a lot earlier. Her assumptions kind of hurt me and I can't really blame her for me not talking about it at all.

    Last night I received a text message from my mother saying, "You should watch what diaper websites you go to." (She has never said anything regarding Infantilism) I really didn't know what she was talking about at first. With North shore giving free samples on no notice, maybe that is what I thought she was talking about. I was embarrassed to talk to her about it so I didn't reply to it. Then she says, I think they are watching you, for child pornography. It turns out that the local law enforcement had made some busts for child pornography rings in the area.

    I got pretty upset and was kind of angry. I asked her if she really thought I was a pedophile. She said no, but that text said differently. Well I Had to talk to her about this. Her assumption, of my attraction to diapers, was that it was pedophilia. I Had to set her mind away from that assumption. I explained to her about how I want to "be" the child, and that this never involved any children at all.

    I sent her the link to "Understanding Infantilism" hoping she would read it. This morning she said she had read it saying she loves me no matter what. I still don't know what she thinks of me or what's expected when I see her next time. I hope she really did read in to it and has a better understanding. I'm kind of happier now, or feel a lot lighter on my shoulders because I was finally able to talk to someone about it and explain.

    Saying this, I'd like to encourage people to talk to people who know but was never explained to about it. Because the media shines a very negative light on us and leaves those people thinking irrationally about the subject simply because they don't know about it. They end up relying on those negative lights and they begin assuming the worst and misfortune things about it.

    Anyone else ever go through something like this? Can you share your experience?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeTaLMaNN1983
    Anyone else ever go through something like this? Can you share your experience?
    No, or at least not that I know of. My parents are the kind that just don't want to know, so I have no idea what their understanding of it is. Sounds scary and sad tho that someone would think that, and has always been a worry of mine. Sorry it happened to you, and hope things are better now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeTaLMaNN1983 View Post
    With North shore giving free samples on no notice, maybe that is what I thought she was talking about. I was embarrassed to talk to her about it so I didn't reply to it. Then she says, I think they are watching you, for child pornography. It turns out that the local law enforcement had made some busts for child pornography rings in the area.

    I got pretty upset and was kind of angry. I asked her if she really thought I was a pedophile. She said no, but that text said differently. Well I Had to talk to her about this. Her assumption, of my attraction to diapers, was that it was pedophilia.
    That's a very unfortunate assumption, I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's good to hear that you cleared the waters, at least a little bit, and explained the vast difference between infantilism and pedophilia, but sad that it was a conversation that you had to have with her at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinycrinkles View Post
    That's a very unfortunate assumption, I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's good to hear that you cleared the waters, at least a little bit, and explained the vast difference between infantilism and pedophilia, but sad that it was a conversation that you had to have with her at all.
    It hurt me to see her say that, it makes me wonder if she had this in her mind about this since she busted me with diapers. After she said it she kept denying that she thought I was a pedophile and said that she loved me.

    I really do hope this has cleared the difference between it because it really upsets me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeTaLMaNN1983 View Post
    I really do hope this has cleared the difference between it because it really upsets me.
    It sounds to me like it has. Maybe if she has more questions or confusions about it, she'll ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeTaLMaNN1983 View Post
    I sent her the link to "Understanding Infantilism" hoping she would read it. This morning she said she had read it saying she loves me no matter what. I still don't know what she thinks of me or what's expected when I see her next time. I hope she really did read in to it and has a better understanding. I'm kind of happier now, or feel a lot lighter on my shoulders because I was finally able to talk to someone about it and explain.
    Sounds like a happy ending

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    Firstly, MetalMann, well done on raising the topic of infantilism with your Mom. It can be a stressful experience discussing it with family, even if they know something of your ABDL side.

    Secondly, whilst your Mom's assumptions are understandably upsetting and frustrating, most people just aren't well informed about our community, and most of the occasions on which ABDL has had exposure on TV and in other mainstream media have painted us in a bad light. If you want her to understand your diaper wearing, you'll have to accept that ignorance and fear about ABDL as a condition, is an obstacle you'll be working to overcome.

    Thirdly, when your Mom warned you about the websites, chances are she's just looking out for you. I sometimes feel a bit paranoid if I'm googling for baby toys considering I don't have kids of my own, but there's nothing bad or harmful about using sites like North Shore, Cosy 'N Dry etc.. Besides, it's clear that your Mom loves you, and love is a great bridge on the way towards understanding.

    If possible, I think a good idea might be to write your Mom a note which explains why you choose to wear diapers (and partake in other AB activities, if indeed you do), and sit down with her whilst she reads through it. That way you can choose your words well in explaining yourself, but you and your Mom can have a two-sided discussion about this side of your personality. Obviously if your motivation for wearing diapers is mostly sexual, I'd say something along the lines of 'I find the feel and texture of them nice'.

    Sorry for rambling, hope some of that helps!

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    My mom doesn't care about my bottle, and usually I'm okay with that because she never needed to know. She told me she doesn't care, but at the same time she told me she doesn't get it. And because of that, I feel kind of bad for keeping her in the dark, but I also find it difficult to explain without misleading. So, I'm fine with waiting for her to make the first move.

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    My mom has tried to be open about it in the past so she asked to watch the King Baby episode so we did and it was portrayed as people are into this because they didn't have a good childhood. It made me feel I was misleading my mother because not everyone is into this because they had a crappy childhood or were forced to grow up fast but this is a awkward topic for me to discuss with her. But she doesn't want to hear about fetishes so why would I think she would want to know how this is a sexual kink for some people and it's about humiliation and domination and not being in control than about wanting to relax and be little again and be cared for like they are a child and not worry about adult things. But it always feels like lying if I don't tell everything.

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    I keep wanting to talk to my father about these... Desires, to be a child at heart, much less a girl. ._.
    I am forever haunted by the thought of what most people might think of me. A select few, actually know about AB-me, but that is only because I got to know them beforehand. The thought of excessive amounts of people I PHYSICALLY KNOW, finding out about me, and this... Haunts me. People thinking I am a freak, haunts me.
    This is a part of me, that I have tried to get rid of, but I can't. Something has always led straight back to AB.
    And it is not that, being AB is bad, or weird, or whatever people wanna call it.
    I just have this NEED... to care about what is said about me. Surely, someone has spoken about this on my facebook, as I had joined a bunch of groups, on my only account. But it is not like I can, "hey, did you notice if I liked, or joined some diaper groups?"

    I literally fear, rejection.
    It burns through me every time, over anything from jobs, to trying to get a girlfriend.
    This girl I met recently, I had a panic attack over, because I thought I was good to bring my AB stuff. I didn't, and my panicking slowed down only after I learned she just wanted to meet, and see if there was any spark.
    Dead end, by the by. I just about relased into a suicidal state, but she talked me out of it, so now, she knows, but doesn't care.

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