I always thought I was just a DL. Then, somewhat recently, before my most recent purge cycle, I ended up getting some AB paraphernalia (a onsie and such). After a really tough month of being without any ABDL activity at all, I've decided I want to find a safe way to stabilize my urges, especially within the context of my wonderful relationship with my non-ABDL girlfriend (she knows, and is somewhat supportive of my particular interests, and doesn't want to be anything less than my one true love). Looking at tumblr pages in the past, abdlcamming, and reading "fiction" have definitely been detrimental in the past, so I'm doing everything I can to cut those out of my life. So now, starting over.
I'm very experienced in most every DL endeavor. However, the closest I've ever come to any AB interests was that one Halloween when I used a baby costume as an excuse to wear diapers. I don't think I really have many of the actual AB tendencies, however I just don't know any more, as I really like onsies, and sometimes find myself slipping into a much younger mindset occasionally when I'm with my girlfriend. Maybe I'm a "little"?
I'm looking for advice on a couple of different fronts. How can I best figure out what I am on the grand scale of AB and DL? How can I keep my interests from getting in the way of my relationship? I would love recommendations on individual activities, activities with her, or anything like that.
Just to give some context: I have my own in an apartment at a small college, I do care about my personal and professional reputation, and I care for my relationship with my girlfriend more than any other part of my life (though I'm beginning to think that without some fashion of ABDL in my life, I may not feel complete).