Hey all. I may not have brought this up to any of you before, but over the past few years I have come to recognize myself as a bisexual. At first, I thought it was because I was still going through puberty, as I was already such a late bloomer to it. But, I am in my 20s now, and I feel more sure of my orientation.
As such, I am reaching that point where I can't hide this side of me for much longer amongst my friends and family. Especially my parents.
I would feel more comfortable with letting my mother know, as she has been willing to listen and accept such things. However, I am afraid of what my father will do. My dad is very tenacious in his ideals, which just so happen to conform to conservative ideals. He says that he is not homophobic, and yet he can not help to voice horrible opinions on homosexuality around me.
I have tried my best to suggest a new point of view, by asking him what he would do if I turned out to be homosexual, but he would always shut me down and say "you can't expect me to answer that" I'm afraid that means "I won't say because I know you're not gay, so I can save you from my judgement"
And yet, I know he can be a compassionate man. He stood by me when I altered my area of study, and he has supported me ever since. He enjoys my company and we have great conversations together. At times, I feel like I could tell him anything out of trust...all except this.
So...to anyone who has had the trouble of trying to come out, what would you suggest I do in the face of something like this?