It is a very well-known fact that a large majority of ABDLs find their diapers to be sexually stimulating. Some use their diapers all the time for this effect, some use it part time.
Then there is the other camp, which use diapers as a security blanket. They find comfort in wearing them and/or using them, and life would become noticeably more uncomfortable if they were to give them up. I choose to identify with this camp, I wish that I could say that I find absolutely no sexual interest in wearing diapers, and allowing myself to wear a diaper at least once a week really calms my nerves down.
But here is the problem: definitions. Here are two summarised ones, all summarised from the first page of their respective Google searches:
Fetishist - A person who attains sexual arousal through the use of an object
Diaper Lover - A person who likes and/or is interested in wearing diapers. Most definitions state that DLs are in fact Diaper Fetishists.
There you have it - anyone who googles the term Diaper Lover, or ABDL, will assume that DLs are people who attain sexual arousal through the use of diapers.
So what about the other camp, those of us who use diapers as a security blanket? We donít fit into the accepted definition of DLs do we? What does this mean? Is it that we in fact do find sexual arousal in wearing diapers, just that we are unable to recognise it?(If so, how do we recognise it?) Or is it that we need to re-write the accepted definition of DL? And if this isnít possible, what do we identify ourselves as?(Think Littles vs. ABs)
But before all those higher level discussions, we need to establish first: are all DLs also Fetishists too?