Ok, first, I know plastic backed diapers are way better. I get that and I understand cloth backed diapers sweat urine, chafe a bit more, etc. This isn't a debate on cloth vs plastic because I realize that plastic wins almost every time.
But, here is my situation, when I last wore for "recreation," I bought Bambino Blanco diapers. I loved them but they were super loud. I would occasionally wear them to bed but it was awkward with my wife. She is alright with it as long as she really doesn't know about them and it was more than obvious. So now my leaking incontinence is getting bad enough I am thinking on getting more diapers but because it makes my wife awkward, I thought I would go for something a bit quieter. I know tight underwear over the diapers quiets it down but when I go to bed, I can barely wear just boxers because I get so hot so a diaper in itself is almost to warm. Which leads me to cloth backed disposables.
So what I am looking for it one, I want velcro tabs. I personally think that is one of the only advantages of cloth backed.
Second, I want it to be fairly thick. I know Abena's are the thickest and probably the best but I don't think they have velcro tabs. If they do please let me know. I don't need them to be super thick by any means but I do prefer a thicker diaper.
Third, I want them to be quiet. This is basically the only reason I am going to try cloth and a noisy cloth backed diaper would be pointless. I don't know if any cloth backed diapers are noisy but if they are, please let me know.
So just to clarify a few things again, this isn't a debate on cloth vs plastic, I know plastic is way better. I understand things you can do with plastic that make them quieter but that's not my point. Also, I want to make sure everyone understands, I am talking about cloth backed disposable diapers, not cloth diapers. Cloth diapers don't do anything to meet my fetish desires so I am sticking with disposables. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and thanks in advance!