My husband and I just started reading, together, There's A Baby in My Bed
I read it about a year or so ago. There were some parts I liked, a few I didn't. Even so we thought this book may help. I have read some reviews from spouses that needed an introduction to this whole thing and they liked the informational aspect about it. He is very cut and dry, black and white and all those other expressions. In the past he had asked what I wanted and the best I could give him was a little bit of fanfiction that he thought was "gross". He's told me the little bit of my regressions that he has seen he likes and sees nothing wring with it but that doesn't seem like fanfiction at all (nothing does lol)
When I'm big I'm so embarrassed I can't explain it without wanting to vomit and when Im Little and comfortable my language isn't high enough to explain anything. (I range from 2-4 so I say I'm three). We are reading the book on my iPad with speech (voice over) so if I feel the need to explain something we just can pause, discuss, and resume.
I've worn a diaper in front of him and he's given me a bottle. It's been fun but I still can't regress with him there and it's taking its toll. For example... The other day we want a trip for the long weekend and we were in a group of all adults and some of them wanted to go into the toy store, so we all went in. The big side of me likes toys too especially matching them up for age appropriate ness for learning and functionality and such things. Well little just started taking over the longer we were in there especially when we saw a toy neither one of us had seen before and big self thought it was cute and practical and little self just wanted it. I don't know if you've seen these before but it was a calico critters houses and families and toys ets like that. Well both parts of me are very thrifty so big self said get a house and collect things to go in it cos it will last long to play with , collect, or when we have kids. Little self said these are so cute and I can't play with a house now and don't want to spend money for a toy I can't play with. So we compromised and ended up getting a camping set that came with a kitty cat.
I was in there forever choosing and little knew that i would have to be bug again soon. As soon as we paid I left I started balling my eyes out. I felt so dumb but there were so many contradictions going on and it was just hurting so much. Now I'm glad it happened cos it made me and my husband realize we need to get this under control.
Thanks for letting me vent everyone