So...Greetings again! I've already introduced myself but thought that I'd chime in again with my random thoughts. That really is my pastime...Thinking. I spent 7 years suppressing my thought with alcohol that I really have found enjoyment in analytical thought. I am a computer engineer so it is in my nature to analyze and figure out how stuff works, including people/society.
I'm 35 years old and live in Oklahoma. I used to call Michigan home but that time is long gone. Sorry, Jenny Granholm's economy just blew me away.
Traditionally I have been very conservative. I am probably much more liberal now than I have ever been though. I find myself best identifying with the Libertarian party but have gained an appreciate for the ability for a collective society to move forward in this world. I have plenty of welfare reform/disability enhancement ideas. Basically weed out the lazy and redirect the budget difference into a separate program specifically for the disabled so that they who have no choice don't feel the negative emotions that accompany welfare use.
I am not pro-gay or anti-gay. Really it's a simple case of I don't have a dog in the fight. From a legal prospective, I am for equal rights regardless to gender. I think that the word "Marriage" should be completely removed from the judicial language. I feel that if the government called it how it is, a contractual agreement, than the anti-gay-marriage peeps will have no ammunition. They'll still bitch and whine but you've negated much of their argument.
That said, I am a Baptist Christian. I am ordained by the Universal Life Church (non-denominational) but so is my cat so I don't think that this ordination holds much weight. Anyway, as a Christian, I have had to process my whole AB/DL/LG interests over the years. What I have come up with is this, when the Bible was written, life was much simpler. Many Christians lock in on homosexuality being a sin but I feel that homosexuality was just the largest contributor to the overall idea of sexual perversions. Before anyone lights their torches or grabs their pitch forks, hear me out. From a physiological prospective, sexual behavior starts at a core function to reproduce as a species. Beyond that is what I believe that the writers of the Bible were really speaking about. So where does that leave me? All in all my sexual deviations are no more or less than those of other sexual endeavors. I am able to sleep at night though knowing that I will do my best to further the Kingdom and that the price for my sin has been paid for. I will still greet God as white as snow. Now Jesus might be like, "Dude, the diaper thing? What was up with that?" LOL
Really the object in life is to not let any one thing take dominate over the rest of your life. So often I have interacted with people who were gay but they were so over the top that it was like, do they have any interest other than being gay? I've interacted with people who were 24/7 baby and I wonder as to how healthy that is mentally to be so absorbed into an interest. I spent 7 years preoccupied by alcohol and that certainly was not healthy both physically and mentally. I have many aspects/interests that make up who I am now.
So one of my interests is in being a Freemason. I have been a Mason for a few years and am active in multiple bodies of the Masonic fraternity. I have yet to find another AB/DL who is a Mason. Maybe I'm a rarity. I could blaze the trail, aye? Before anyone asks, no I do not wear to Lodge/Shrine/etc.
One of my other interests is my vehicles. We (my wife and I) have a Cadillac DTS and a 45th Anniversary Edition Camaro SS. The SS is my toy. It's 440HP on a 6 speed manual. I've done some light modifications to it. Today I dropped $500 on two new tires for the rear of it.
So, I got married last month. My wife and I have been together for 8 years. We have raised her two girls and my two boys. It's been fun but being married brings on a whole new level to intimacy. She's accepting of my interests in regards to our common subject. I conducted this relationship as I think that everyone should and that is with honesty. My wife knew about my interests from the beginning. It wasn't like I started dating her and said, "Hey, I wet. You?" But it was talked about in the beginning. We became friends first. That is how every couple should start. Don't look for a lover. Look for a best friend and if it's meant to be, he/she will make an ideal lover.
That brings me around to all of the people that I have found in the AB/DL community over the years that is feverishly searching for a mommy/daddy/lover. Really, this might not be the best outlet for building a strong enduring relationship. I can not imagine starting a relationship on the premise of baby-play. #babyplay...haha...That was an old IRC channel. Probably no one remembers it. Anyway, you really need to build a true friendship and let this part of our psyche augment that relationship if fit.
If anyone wants to talk systems engineering, hit me up. Linux, MS, networking, PBX, etc.
I'm done. Peace.