I've got a question for any gays on the site (specifically males in this case, but any and all advice is welcome).
So I'm bisexual (at least I think?) and have been having some bad experiences with the opposite sex, which means I want to give guys a shot. However, I'm still in the closet about my interest in guys. I'm sure I would get support from my friends and family if I came out of the closet, but I just don't want to be viewed differently, which I think would happen despite what people say about not being judgmental. I just feel like people would treat me differently and I don't want to be treated differently if I'm living the same lifestyle. Granted I would be adding a BF into the equation if everything worked out, but other than that I want to just be viewed as the same person I've always been.
So I'm caught in a strange balancing act: how do I go about letting certain people of the same sex know I'm interested without putting myself on blast for everyone around me to find out? Is that even possible?
And how do you approach someone of the same sex who you know nothing about and let them know you're interested without freaking them out (assuming they're straight)? Is it one of those things where you have to suck it up and go for it, or is there some way to subtly go about showing your interest? Or should I just stick to people that I know are gay via some website like fetlife or something?
I had a bad experience in high school regarding this one guy I was sort of hitting on (and crushing over REALLY hard) and I could tell I freaked him out a bit because I didn't hear from him since. So, that's basically my biggest concern. I don't mind hitting on another guy if I know he's interested, but how do I go about that without freaking some people out if I'm not sure about their orientation?