Warning, first post. This addresses performance from a DL perspective (or at least my perspective) and doesn't necessarily address the needs of the IC.
So after recently coming out to my girlfriend I've been trying different diapers. So I thought I would try my hand and writing a little review.
This review is by no means scientific, and based mostly on opinion and my experiences.
Like many others I eventually heard about the Fabines, so I got some of these off ebay for comparison.
Here are the diapers I've tried.
Wallgreens/Depends/Store crap brand.
XP Medical Absorbancy Level 4.
I'm going to write about these in order of favorite to least favorite.
First off Belissimos (size medium). The most absorbant diaper I have tried. I have been able to make these leak at night, but it takes a lot of water and/or alcohol the night before to make that happen. I can only say these leak the least amount, so as far as absolute absorbancy, I didn't make a measurement. Unlike the other diapers that swell up to a point, these manage to swell up tremendously, especially in the front. I think, as with any diaper to get max usage, keep yourself pointed down before you pee and these things are amazing. I can get 3 to 5 floods, or 2 or 3 floods and 5 -10 small wetting out of these. The tapes are usually quite strong, stronger than other brands I have tried. The fit of these seems like a half size off. I am a size 40" waist and it only leaves about an inch of overlap on the sides. I have tried a large in these but they are just massive and they leaked easily. So I just wish the mediums were a bit more as advertised (up to 44") but they are on the small size.
Second, Fabino Exclusive (size medium). Yes, you are reading this right. The Fabine's do not hold up to the Bellissimo. I've tried 10 of them now and they just can't match The Belissimos capacity. I took some pictures of these beside the Bellissimos and it's quite odd. They look nearly identical. The tapes especially seem to be identical. I read someone wondering if these two where made by the same outsourced manufacturer, and I wonder that as well. That being said, they seem to fit the tiniest bit better, are a little bit softer, and are cuter than The Belissimo. Still they only hold about 60 to 70 percent of the Belissimo. You can look at YouTube videos of these all you want, but after two floods these things were done. Worse yet, they leak if you pee quickly. They did not appear to absorb as fast as the Belissimo. Just to be sure, I put some on mommy a couple of nights as well, and she agreed, they can't take the load like a Belissimo (which she has also tried). I put them on her because I had to be sure I wasn't imagining things. These Fabines are just so mystical, but no, they are not perfect. On the second flood they would start leaking on both sides where your bottom touches the mattress. Mommy is a lot smaller than me, so after she had exactly the same experience we were scraching our heads. It's good to note that this did not happen all the time, but they did leak more so than the Belissmos. Basically my point here is, don't buy them if functionality is what you are after. The Belissmos win hands down, even if they are not as cute. I think I can say maybe the Fabines have better press out, but they can't hold as much as a Belissimo so it doesn't really matter. I've read some complain abpout the width in the crotch. Well if you hike the edges of the diapers all the way up into the sides of your crotch, you'll create a nice pocket, and they are MUCH more comfortable. That way I often don't even realize I have them on except for the genlte soft rub of them on my bottom when I am walking.
Wellness Briefs. Astronaut technology? what? These are an "ok" diaper. They have leak gaurds, and are thinner in the crotch so they are very comfortable. These were one of the first I tried. Because of the fit, they sag really really bad when they near capacity, causing leaking. They may actually take a little more than the Fabines in capacity, but I can't be sure.
XP Medical Absorbancy Level 4 (size large). Well I would say that, for the money, these are actually not too bad. They are about half the capacity of a Belissimo, maybe a little more. There are no leak gaurds. They clump easily after wetting. You can get 2 good floods in and then you are probably done. The tapes suck and break easy. One nice thing I can say about these is that the sizing is right on, but in all other aspects, you get what you pay for. Still, if you are on a budget, these would work in a pinch. I personally will only use the Bellisimos, by the case, because I think the price/capacity still makes them well worth it.
Store Brands. Garbage. But you knew that. There is no reason to buy them. Even if Belissimo are nearing $2 diaper you can usually manage 6 to 12 hours but nothing I've tried in the store holds more than one solid wetting. Forget flooding. You might get lucky once, but not twice.
Other Notes. I've learned that hiking these things up bewteen your legs seems to be the most effective, almost creating a pocket around your parts and helping to direct the overflow towards the back of the diaper. Even before doing that and just having them around my thighs, the Belissimos leak gaurds worked wonders. It's always a good idea to stay tucked down to get the most out of your diaper. None of the diapers are particularly good at filling the back part of your diaper if you don't stay aimed properly. The worse side effect of not staying tucked correctly is that when flooding, urine will build up, then overlflow over the sides of the diaper even when it's not at capacity.
Anyways, I've been having a lot of fun. Mommy diapers me 3 to 4 times a day as needed, and she tries out the products with me to give me feed back.
I'm interested in some feedback about how the Abenas or other products are. I'm also almways interested in max absorbancy but haven't found anything better than the Belissimos.
I hope these opinions and experiences might be valueable to someone.