I think it comes more natural and easy over time along with how confident you are as a person. Our younger and less experienced brothers and sisters will naturally be unsure of themselves. I'm not incontinent but do live with extreme urgency with pee and especially poop. If I'm not within a a minute of a bathroom, it's going in my diaper. Yes, I've been wearing 24/7 for over a decade so perhaps with all that experience I've become very used to it. At home or in public, simply dosen't matter. I don't advertise it but I do own it. I couldn't live any other way. As for clothing choice, I always wear dark or black very baggy clothing. Since I've retired ( early at 57 ), my usual warm weather attire consists of some very baggy, dark shorts with a Columbia fishing shirt in 2x. When worn tails out (always), it comes down past my butt effectively hiding the diaper. And I do wear pretty thick diapers. Since it's not uncommon for me to have major messing accidents when out and about plus being a heavy wetter, I wear a confidry 24/7 as a "diaper liner" under a Kins pull-up cloth diaper under plastic pants. The "liner" keeps poop off my cloth diaper and makes clean-up so much easier. Yes, they are rather thick but I find that level of protection necessary. When worn for about an hour and when slightly damp they are surprisingly easy to walk in with no discomfort or waddle. Mobility is not an issue. Cold weather brings out very baggy sweats, 2x flannel shirts with tails out and various coats. When situations dictate, I'll wear some very baggy black dockers with some cool sweaters or a sports jacket. My other precautions include a good amount of desitin (has zinc oxide for superior protection - haven't had a diaper rash in years), Nullo tablets for odor control, and my heavy gage plastic pants. When at home I can wear my light weight plastic pants with, truth be told, more comfort. I will say that I detest loose stool and do everything I can to avoid it. I had about a foot of my large intestine removed decades ago (concentrated diverticulitis), the cause of my severe urgency. I was told to use a bulk producing fiber supplement and have had problem free, easy to pass BM's since the surgery. I rarely have the runs except for the occasional food poisoning like the rest of us. At those times I use Immodium to fix the problem. As for being out in public, like I said earlier, it takes experience and a natural level of self confidence. I live on a lake a block away from our old (175 year old village) downtown and will frequently take a stroll to the coffee shop, wine bar, various resturants and even the library. I've had numerous public "accidents", sometimes while in conversation with some other locals and haven't been "discovered". My only real problem is that with the bulk producing fiber supplement (I use Metamucil) I produce enormous volume multiple times a day. Since it is so difficult to change away from home with a pull-up cloth diaper, I don't. I have such good capacity that it just became a matter of getting used to having a (usually large) load in my diaper. I'll admit that it did take some getting used to. Now I have no problem with it. I've even sat in the library for a few hours with a load in wet diapers with no issue. I just need to be aware of how wet I am so I don't leak. With my level of protection it's so rare as to not even disserve a mention. Since I was a thumbsucking diapered bedwetter into my early teens I suppose it's been a lot easier for me to embrace and yes, even enjoy at times. And when I had to revert back to using diapers was nerve-racking in the beginning, I'm now so comfortable with it I'm not hardly ever bothered by it. So my advise is to take the proper precautions and relax. In all the years I've been wearing diapers I don't think anyone has noticed. And if they did, they didn't say anything. Most don't know or care.