I know that this is fetish and a lifestyle for some, but after all that i've been through I realize, i would pretty readily give up my AB/DL-ness. I used to think I'd never give it up for anyone, they'd just have to accept me for who I am.
That's pretty selfish thinking sometimes, but now I think I'd give it up if i had to.
My last relationship, the AB/DL was just a fun bonus to the love, and now i'm single so I have to re-think if i'd even want to be AB/DL with someone new.
The question now is how significant is AB/DL in you relationship? Is it a AB/DL whole lifestyle? A few good romps with AB/DL? or happy just being there w/o AB/DL?