I could do with some advice, for years I've thought about coming out to my family, now I realize I need to engage my best friends and may be a few of my parents friends also, the sole reason for this is extra support for my ailing late 60's parents, I couldn't tell them and then they not be able to get it off there chests.
I think I know how my dad will react (he's a control freak - he has admitted it to) he has a unknown heart condition called syndrome X, heart attack symptoms without the heart attack, my mum has a mild form of parkinsons disease and is a bit frail (got herself locked in the shed the other day - stuck in there for an hour), but is a person of a happy go lucky personality.
(so that you know a little about me: the view my family and friends have of me is a kind, caring, gentle and loving person, which is true, and it will never change - then there's the dark side of me: I am a masochist, with a liking for of pain, rubber, bondage and humiliation)
I'm thinking of using a two pronged strategy
starting with: Coming Out - my 22 year secret, making light of the fact I'm not Dying or Gay - please don't shoot me for my gay analogy - my reason for using it is: dad's best friend came out to him, his first twisted comment was: as long you don't have anything to do with kids - when dads best friend told me what he said I was like seriously WTF!! - the best friend, he knows about first prong me - I told him over plenty of alcohol some years ago
my first prong is to go in and let them know that I'm the happiest I've been in 22 years, tell them about being a masochist, and the other bits.
when the anger, shock, disgust hopefully fades:
I mention that there is more - and it is even more of a Taboo subject, which to many it is, to me it is completely normal - this is the second prong.
This is the bit I've yet to work out tactically.
Sorry for it being long winded, and sounding like a script for a documentary, in truth it is probably over 30 years a secret - but I need to stop living a lie, it starts to way heavy on your shoulders after 30 years - please if anyone has any advice, or thinks it is a stupid idea, all comments welcome.
many thanks for reading,