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    So i told my daddy i think he was right and hes not taking it well.He said 99% of furs are also into bestiality and says he knows alot of furs.And he said its a fetish that should be kept private not parading their fetish everywhere.He says they all have fur pics as their profile photo on fb and furry only places on sites.He also said 99% of furries are sexual about it.They shouldnt be flaunting their sexual fetish every where.He says hes fine with furries though.I just dont see where all this hatred and closemindedness comes from?Im not sure what to do or say.

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    people hate what they don't understand I guess

    I would confront it with some of the more factual stuff and explain that being a furry has more to deal with liking anthropomorphic characters than liking porn and tell him that its not really flaunting sexuality as much as it is flaunting a cartoon from a fandom that has a very bad image regarding the porn. though do keep in mind that there is still alot of sexuality.

    I would ask more furries before confronting him though as I don't really even count as a furry my self

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    How can anyone say for sure what someone feels. 99% show me proof. Just remember people who make these kind of statements are not very understanding and should not be listened to. Bestiality, my guess is the total percentage of people into this is so low it is not worth mentioning. I am not sure how to help you in this case but don't let anyone make you feel bad for who you are.

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    It reminds me of adult babies and diaper lovers being accused as pedophiles. Even Putin made the statement that homosexuals were allowed in Russia as long as they didn't touch the children. John Stewart showed the news footage of Putin kissing a little boy's stomach. Haters will say extreme and outrageous things to force their misguided opinions on others. I would just ignore it and let it blow over. The more you protest, the more he will rant, IMO.

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    Maybe daddy is a little worried that you are about to enter a world he can't compete in. Maybe he is worried you'll discover needs he cannot fulfil or that you'll discover you don't need him. If being the care giver is an important role for him he may be concerned that you'll start looking for a new owner or companion. Maybe also he is a little worried of how he would react to you in furry mode. He may be worried about being attracted to a 'pony' and question what that would say about him?

    Just a few ideas to consider
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    i talked to him more.He hates furries because he says they flaunt there sexual fetish which he thinks should be kept private.I mentioned getting a fursona done and putting it up as my avi on fb and he flipped.He says that he does not want anyone to associate him with furrys which to him are a sexual thing.I kinda see where hes comming from but at the same time i dont understand his hatred.

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    This is rediculous, show him some polls done on furry specific sites. the percentage of furries into any sort of art as a sexaul outlet is relatively small. I know 3 furries, all who are non-sexual, myself included.

    Almost any lifestyle, or interest group is going to contain people who are there for sexual reasons. whether it be abdls, furries, goths\steampunks, or My Little Pony enthusiasts. Within any community, there will be sexual diversity, and deviation, the furry community is no different. some furries are into beastiality, some homosexuals are flamers, some gaths are satomasochistic nymphomaniacs, but if you let yourself HATE a whole group nof people because of its deviants, than you're needlessly causing pain in byour heart, and others.

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    Quote Originally Posted by malix View Post
    This is rediculous, show him some polls done on furry specific sites. the percentage of furries into any sort of art as a sexaul outlet is relatively small. I know 3 furries, all who are non-sexual, myself included.

    Almost any lifestyle, or interest group is going to contain people who are there for sexual reasons. whether it be abdls, furries, goths\steampunks, or My Little Pony enthusiasts. Within any community, there will be sexual diversity, and deviation, the furry community is no different. some furries are into beastiality, some homosexuals are flamers, some gaths are satomasochistic nymphomaniacs, but if you let yourself HATE a whole group nof people because of its deviants, than you're needlessly causing pain in byour heart, and others.
    It doesn't really sound like he wants to be confused by facts in this matter when he's already certain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by skittlesfirehawk View Post
    So i told my daddy i think he was right and hes not taking it well.He said 99% of furs are also into bestiality and says he knows alot of furs.And he said its a fetish that should be kept private not parading their fetish everywhere.He says they all have fur pics as their profile photo on fb and furry only places on sites.He also said 99% of furries are sexual about it.They shouldnt be flaunting their sexual fetish every where.He says hes fine with furries though.I just dont see where all this hatred and closemindedness comes from?Im not sure what to do or say.
    It is odd, when someone is apart of something deemed so taboo by society, I struggle to understand how they choose to be as singularly closed minded as your Daddy.

    I would struggle to be so closed minded, even if I wanted to. I am perpetually surrounded in this community by people who are in to practically anything and everything - including myself. The only way to be is accepting, accommodating and diplomatic. Otherwise I would never get very far, never make many friends and probably never truly be happy socialising with you all. Moreover, I'd have real problems coming to terms with who I am.

    It takes so much energy to hate something. Do you know why your Daddy is the way that he is? A lack of information. Either down to stupidity, arrogance or ignorance. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but you need to make a decision and think this through. If you're so shocked and appalled by his response, do you really think your relationship is going to last? Be honest with yourself.

    I know I could never have a friend who thinks like that, let alone a caregiver. I'd have no respect for him/her. Whether that be in real life or online.

    But from another perspective, people's views change over time. Perhaps exposure and understanding will help him realise that most furries are just normal people. My boyfriends father was a complete homophobe. Then my boyfriend came out to him, and he changed. He took some time to adjust, but he did. People can change for their loved ones if they want to. But they have to want to.

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    I think I can help a little bit here despite myself not being a furry. I would suggest getting correlative data from credible sources of information and show that data to your daddy skittlesforehawk. The truth of the matter is I myself do not understand the whole furry thing but to be honest but does that make me intolerant of it? of course not. All that does is make me ignorant of these issues and there is no shame in ignorance only in refusing to learn. I would suggest that you talk to someone who can help you use diplomacy effectively (like possibly a therapist if you have one?) and have them help you talk to him. I think you just need to present this to the guy in the right way and eventually both of you will be fine.

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