Hi again forum folk, today I come to you with a quandry...
I ordered (well, split a case order with a friend) my first 'proper' diapers, Abena L4's recently and I've used two so far however for the bloody life of me I cannot get the damn things to sit on my gut just below my belly button like they're supposed to, they just slide down every time and it instantly ruins the snugness (which also by the way permanently decreases if I even bend over in these things! and becomes way too loose from being stretched out instantly), however all the other diapers I've tried tend to suffer the same issue >.< am I just doing it wrong? I managed to get the L4's nice and snug however extremely difficultly standing (first time I'd ever tried, mostly put them on on the bed) though again they just slide down x.x
do I just need more practice or do I need bigger diapers and if so where the heck can I find them? I don't like to drop measurements but L4's are supposed to be 40-60" for sizing and I sit at 52-54 (fluctuates) just below the belly button to give you an idea of how much wiggle room I have (however I wear my jeans and most pants just above the crotch area)
one other thing is I do have quite large thighs from being overweight and that seems to play a role with the leg gatherers always being squished inward and the wings not laying flat at the top of my hips.
please help D: