I posted awhile ago about introducing AB/DL into a strong relationship here, and recently the relationship I thought was so strong has not been going well.
After a few weeks of back and forth and a lot of talking, we finally got to the issue. My girlfriend is not comfortable with thinking about me as an AB/DL. It still bothers her. Though I have told her it's ok, and that I'm fine with boundaries and doing things on my own, she has expressed concern that it's not fair to me that she can't love every part of me, including my little side. She thinks it is important for me to think about all of this and whether I can stay in a relationship wherein my partner may never participate or even want to talk about diapers/baby things/etc. She also thinks that it may be helpful for me to "talk to someone" about it (meaning a therapist, psychiatrist, or the like).
As crazy as it may sound, we are both still madly in love with one another. We are both still physically attracted to each other (she has told me this is the case despite how she feels about AB/DL). We love spending time together, and we want to try to make things work. It's just that this part of me seems to be hard for her to accept, even after more than a year of knowing about it. She has said that she wants to understand and that she wishes she could accept and love this part of me, but I think she's just trying to ease the pain. I don't know that she really does want to learn more or work on being more accepting. Anytime I've tried to talk to her about it she has been more than kind but clearly uncomfortable...so I tend to just not talk about it...
So I guess my questions are these:
1) Has anyone found talking to a professional helpful in dealing with relationships?
2) Is finding someone who is more accepting of my little side worth throwing away a long-term, fantastic, loving relationship with a woman who feels uncomfortable with things AB/DL?
3) Is it possible for someone who is still turned off by such things after a year to become more accepting over time?