It's Thanksgiving this weekend. (Up here we celebrate in October; we're such special snowflakes, I know). It's a good time for all, of course. Several family members have come to visit, we had our big dinner last night, and it was a full day of talking, games, and spending time together.
Sounds wonderful, right? Actually, by the time dinner was served, I was ready to scream.
Honestly, ever since I've grown up, I haven't enjoyed Thanksgiving or Christmas very much. This kind of goes off the thread on personality types that was just posted, but I didn't want to hijack that thread. Being really introverted makes these holidays very painful. It's not that I dislike social contact - I enjoy being with family. But uninterrupted time with others makes me feel very anxious and inadequate, like I'm the only one who isn't happy.
The fact that it's Thanksgiving makes it even worse. People worked so hard to make it perfect. How dare I be anything other than happy! I can't let everyone else down! Being at that table, despite the wonderful dinner, was an hour of complete torture, because I felt like at any minute my frustration would be picked up and everyone's holiday would be completely ruined, and it'd be all my fault.
I'm not just on here to complain - I've been able to get that out, thankfully, and I feel a lot better this morning, thanks to one wonderful individual . I'm also looking for advice. Fellow introverts, how do you survive the super-social holidays? What makes Christmas and Thanksgiving bearable for you? Again - I love my family, and I appreciate how much they put into holidays; it's the stress of having to be "on" the whole time with no time to relax. My relationships are fine. It's the stress and pressure of the holidays that gets to me.
Any advice on how to survive, and ideally enjoy, these events would be deeply appreciated. Christmas is coming, after all.