I'm sorry to post ANOTHER "coming out" thread but as far as I can tell I can't find exactly what I'm looking for on the site so i'll just start this thread and ask away (hope you don't mind)
So, I'm debating telling someone (perhaps parents, perhaps bff) about my dl-ism and im weighing the pros and cons of each. I wanted you (yes, YOU!) to give me your opinion.
Pros for parents
- I can wear around the house without worrying about someone walking in on me (I especially tend to diaper up at night when I'm in a binge phase)
-I can buy online (I have debit but not credit card), Goodbye depends, hello Molicare/Bambino/Tena/Abena!
-I might just feel a bit better about myself
Cons for parents
-Potentially destroying our relationship (if they hate or don't allow it)
-making our relationship akward for the rest of our lives (I'd rather never have them know, ever, they might feel weird having a diaper-wearing son)
-etc. I think we can speculate on this one
Pros for bff
-Parents don't have to know but I have someone to wear them around (discreetly of course) and talk to occasionally
-maybe she's also abdl lol never know
-She could order online for me and I could pay her back
Cons for bff
-like parents, our relationship might be forever awkward, distanced, or altogether destroyed by this (she already means the world to me)
-It would always be the elephant in the room
-I might come across as forcing it onto her (sometimes maybe?)
Pros/cons for staying quiet
-I know for sure that my abdl-ness stays under the radar for now at the expense of some minor guilt and anxiety issues
-I finish high school in a year and I could always get better diapers then
-This is not the first time I have had these thoughts, and they have faded before... eventually, but always come back... eventually.
-I miss out on potentially opening up a real-life (non-internet) (SMALL) community of people who know and accept me, but its a gamble either way
Long story short I'm wondering if this is worth acting on or if its just part of a binge/purge cycle and it can wait until im out on my own.
So what do you guys think? i figure most of us have been in this position before... i'd really appreciate some help on this.
thanks in advance!