I have found that in times of real stress that I have always gotten strength from my baby personality.
I don't think that it has ever been an escape from things. It has been more like a security blanket that I have had since 14 . It may have even earlier than that. When I have been real upset about things, I would have potty accidents. Even in adulthood this has happened.
I have tried to figure out what and when this is triggered. At what point to I reach that the baby personality takes over. I do know that it all has to do with emotional stress.
There are some things that bother me more emotionally than others. One of then that bothers me the most is the death of a loved one, or some very close to me. I have gone through two in the last year. After both of these I have has a night time messing accident. Bed wetting is one thing, but I don't like dealing with messing too. I should know that they will happen, my guts feel like they are tied in knots. I am an emotional wreck when these happen.
It is thou my baby personality says this is to much and takes over.
There is stress in life but where do I draw the line. I don't think I can. My baby personality is my protector. I just need to learn how to not let things reach a point of me needing to have my baby side take over.