Being incontinent for the last several months has given me far greater insight than I ever had before into the realities of wearing diapers. Like many who have come to this disability from an AB background, I have had a better time accepting it and accepting the 24/7 need for protection than I would have otherwise. However, as I and many other IC's have said many times on these forums, being truly incontinent is much more a pain in the butt than it is a wish fulfillment.
The constant concern about smelling and leaking and diapers showing, the need to know where rest rooms are so you can change, the simple expense of all of those diapers, the wardrobe adjustments necessary to cover the fact that you are now padded in the middle in highly noticeable ways, the entire extra suitcase needed just for diapers when traveling, the constant necessity for cleaning and keeping clean, leaking into the bed because there really are no diapers anywhere that can reliably stop leaks for side-sleepers, the need to carry a diaper bag of some kind with you everywhere you go and probably a change of clothing just in case, the heat of it in the summer...these are just a few of the things that incontinent people have to worry about. Let's just say it isn't exactly a dream come true.
I know that, when I was much younger (back in my college days when I was more heavily into my AB side as a way to make my bedwetting more emotionally acceptable), I entertained the same sorts of silly (and utterly stupid) wishes that turn up again and again in threads on this and every other diaper site. How could I make myself...? What if were really...? Yeah, pretty idiotic. (In my defense, please remember I was all alone back then: the only AB in the world as far as I knew, with no internet to support me and tell me what an ass I was being.)
Which brings me to the reason I am writing this.
How many age regression stories are out there? These tales play to the fantasy of not just playing baby but being one physically. It is the logical extreme extension of what we do when we role-play babyhood. And in our Little selves many of us do role-play babyhood, or at least toddlerhood. And truly: in the fantasy mind, how many of us see ourselves as we are? Adults in diapers? Rather, how many see ourselves in our minds as the children we would like to be while we are assuming these roles?
I would guess that there are more of the latter than the former among traditional ABs. So let me postulate this as a specific fantasy and see what you think:
We are children who simply have never grown up. We are older in actual years but in size and physical maturity we are still (fill in the blank here with the speed at which you would like growth retarded). I suspect that might appeal as a fantasy. But I am going to link below to a story about such a thing happening in real life, and, just as in the case of incontinence, it is anything but a fantasy. Here is a nine-year-old girl who is still basically an infant in appearance and maturity. Here is an adult man who looks like a 12-year-old and functions like a baby. And there are others as well. We play our games with these identities and enjoy our fantasies, but it is good once in a while to step back and recognize what would happen if they really came true.
The reality behind the fantasy is never as good as the imagination because the imagination ignores all of the pitfalls that reality uncovers. There are no tears in imagination. There are no medical bills in imagination. There is no pain in imagination. There are no consequences or ramifications in imagination. Nothing that happens there lasts.
The next time it crosses your mind to write a thread asking a silly fantasy-fulfillment question, remember that there is a reason we have imaginations in the first place: to live out our fantasies in safety where we cannot hurt ourselves in any way. Real is not always better. Ask any IC person. Ask the parents in this video. And then go ahead and keep dreaming. That's the best place for dreams to be.
Families From TLC's 'My 40-Year-Old Child' Share Stories Of Kids Who Don't Age (VIDEO)
(There is a separate link on the page to a longer, more complete video if you are interested.)