This might give those who are not IC a closer look into what some of us have dealt with.
I had a dear friend that I met years ago I knew had problems makings ends meet because of a deadbeat ex-husband.
We had met through another friend a year earlier. I would check on her and her kids about 3 times a week to make sure she had every thing she needed for the kids. She had 5 kids. She was on state aid at the time and after buy the house payment and other bills she had a rough time of making it month to month. Not having any one to support but myself I helped out when ever I could.
After a year of doing this we talked about me moving in with her and the kids. I should add right here that we did not have sexual attraction to each other. We had tried and it felt awkward to both of us. We had more of a Brother Sister relationship. I agreed that would save me money in the long run
Now this is were the diapers come in. When I was moving my stuff in the kids had spotted my diapers.
So we sat the kids down and told them the truth of why I had and wore diapers. We told them that I had a problem that caused me to wet to bed and some times my pants. I wore diapers to keep other things dry. The plain and simple truth.
There was no "Don't ask" "You don't need to know" We were up front with them. I found out later that the kids respected me for doing so.
I ended up being a stand in Dad to these kids. I think kids are some what more understanding then what we give them credit for.
My friend passed away this past winter, but that was for the best she has been sick for a while.