I'm sure there are lots of you out there who are in a relationship and haven't (yet) told your SO about your AB/DL/little side. Have you weighed up the pros and cons and decided NOT to tell? If so, how are you finding that?
Reason I'm asking is that I have lived with my partner for 2 years now, so I'm way past the point where ideally I should have told him. Part of me wants to tell, just so that I don't have to keep a secret from him (he has been open with me about his TV side since before we committed to each other) but I feel ashamed, embarrassed, I wouldn't want him to see me diapered, I don't want him to act as my caregiver. I have self-acceptance issues that go beyond accepting my little side, but they are slowly getting better, and allowing myself to be little is helping I think.
So I think I just have to keep this between my ears and be little when he's away overnight (once a month or so). I can come to adisc when he's not around, but I don't like having to keep that a secret either. I don't think what I'm doing is affecting our relationship at the moment because I'm fitting what I want to do around everythinge else but I'm wondering if this is going to work long term.
We are planning to start trying for a baby next month so I feel like I either have to tell him NOW (and risk our whole future) or keep it to myself long term, and I'm worried that I might just be kidding myself that this is possible. We don't want to delay trying for a baby because we're 34 and 39 already and although it might happen first try, it might take a while too.