In response to another thread, I stated that, in a completely ironic way, wearing diapers may in some cases be the most mature choice a person can make to solve a problem. As long as it reflects a reasoned understanding of all options out there, a deep reflection of one's own circumstances, a clear and sober-minded pre-conception of the likely reaction of those around you in the fairly likely event that you will be noticed at one point or another, and an understanding of the social stigma that diaper-wearing carries with it, the decision to use them seems to me to be a sign of someone who knows him or herself and accepts him or herself with whatever flaws might exist. That this decision is independent of societal pressure--or in spite of societal pressure--seems to point toward this conclusion.
Of course, I recognize the utterly self-serving nature of this notion: it validates my own choice in a lovely, self-actualizing manner. And I also understand that it might on its surface be seen as insulting to those who make other choices: I chose pads or a catheter or a colostomy: is she saying I'm immature? But that is the furthest thing from my mind. If, in a "deep reflection of one's own circumstances," one comes to a different conclusion, then that is also a very mature decision. Any decision so arrived at will be a mature decision.
What bothers me is the repeatedly expressed statement in these threads (as well as similar threads on DD) that urologists tend to harbor some sort or anti-diaper sentiment, as if this is not a valid choice at all. I have an appointment on Friday, and I want to find out what is going on with me, but that is the one thing I fear: that the doctor will find nothing she can really do but seriously frown on my solution. I of course will stand my ground: I know my own circumstances and my own body better than any doctor. But it won't feel good.
What do you all think of these thoughts?