Last week, I mustered the courage to disclose one the most private of secrets I've had in my entire life.
While having quite a deep conversation with my girlfriend, I made the decision to tell her about my use of a pacifier. I made the decision to tell her because she is, aside from family, the only person who I completely trust. I had also debated about telling her for a few months, and came to the conclusion that she would be accepting of my habit that is viewed by the outside world as strange, weird, unhealthy, etc.
However, upon telling her, she, for lack of a better phrase, freaked out and asked for some time to think about what I told her.
I respected that request, and waited for her to continue the conversation.
A few hours later, she got ahold of me and explained that she could no longer talk about what I had told her and explained to me that using a pacifier makes her feel as if I am a weak-minded individual who is not capable of protecting her, which was a direct shot to my stature as a man.
This really damaged by frame of mind, and has only increased the insecurity I feel on a day to day basis.
Any and all advice would be appreciated.