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    Default Dilemma...advice to wear to family Dr.

    Hello,
    Does anyone have advice on my dilemma. I wear 24/7 and I need to go to see my family dr, then probably a chiropractor. They could send me for an MRI. I'm tired of changing into underwear right before my appointments and changing back to my diaper right after they're over. I'm OAB and have never fully addressed it with my dr. I mentioned it once and he made note. Should I wer or not.... What are the pro and cons or your experiences??

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    I have worn to the Drs. before it was no big deal. It is best that they know. I have worn to the therapist and family Dr. I think you are being embarrassed over something you shouldn't be.

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    I can go pee between 20-30 times throughout the day and the urge comes on strong. I don't want to go to a urologist or a neurologist. Not sure which one they would send me to probably both? I'm really sick of changing. Maybe at my age I shouldn't be like this.





    Quote Originally Posted by krallen View Post
    I have worn to the Drs. before it was no big deal. It is best that they know. I have worn to the therapist and family Dr. I think you are being embarrassed over something you shouldn't be.

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    BambinoPants: I once faced a similar dilemma. Many years ago, I held down a pretty decent job, one which didn't require me to work holidays and offered a generous health package, along with vacation and paid sick days. Had I been able to keep that job, I would be squarely in the middle class today, and not on disability. However, I ignored a sensory processing disorder I had at the time, and compromised my own personal comfort so I could "fit in" with everybody else. Without ever saying anything or talking about it, my own family knew about my needs and could do nothing about it, because I, too, was in denial. I was foolish.

    I lost that good paying job with generous benefits because I had mismanaged my medical condition. My brand new truck, gone. My new appliances, gone. My chance of getting a house, gone. My credit was ruined, and I ended up bankrupt. My student loans got cancelled, and I can never go back to taking classes because a minor disability ended up becoming a major obstacle with the cancelled student loans. And I'll tell everybody here with a strait face, that my chances of ever securing a marriage or even having a girlfriend to date had never materialized, simply because I wanted to "fit in" and ignored what my central nervous system was telling me. For the first 35 years of my life, it was beeping and lighting up like the control panel of a Boeing 737 about ready to crash!

    You need to wear what makes you most comfortable, and helps you function best when you visit your doctor. I would not swap out your diaper for regular briefs, because when you do that, you are lying to a medical practitioner and are only hurting yourself. ONLY wear less protection when you are SURE of your own physical comfort when you are out and about. Your doctor may inquire about the diaper, but he'll most likely understand when you tell him that you are feeling discomfort when you wear regular briefs. Chances are, you may even get a prescription for them. You will feel far better about yourself, knowing it's a medial issue that can be easily managed, rather than having to live in constant fear of being "found out".

    Good luck.

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    I'd recommend going there wearing your diaper. I don't see any big deal, I'd just recommend changing before the appointments out of respect. You can explain that you have an overactive bladder and/or just tell the Chiropractor that you're IC.

    When you say that you're sick of changing do you mean your diaper or going to all these doctors and being told that you have to do this, that, and the other thing?

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    When I had stomach flu, I wore to the doctor because of the consequences associated with stomach flu. We weren't sure if it was food poisoning or flu, but upon examination, he did not say a word about me wearing a diaper.

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    The can't send you anywhere. They can recommend that you go see a urologist, but they can't make you go. Just wear a diaper.

    You probably should go see a urologist though. I got jerked around and the urologist was no help, but everyone who has issues should go at least once. I have https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chroni..._pain_syndrome

    My general practitioner thought it was OAB for years.

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    I change into regular underwear prior to any dr appt. I'm not asked to I just do. Thank you for you reply





    Quote Originally Posted by kwisy View Post
    I'd recommend going there wearing your diaper. I don't see any big deal, I'd just recommend changing before the appointments out of respect. You can explain that you have an overactive bladder and/or just tell the Chiropractor that you're IC.

    When you say that you're sick of changing do you mean your diaper or going to all these doctors and being told that you have to do this, that, and the other thing?
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    Thank you for your reply





    Quote Originally Posted by captainpollution View Post
    When I had stomach flu, I wore to the doctor because of the consequences associated with stomach flu. We weren't sure if it was food poisoning or flu, but upon examination, he did not say a word about me wearing a diaper.
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    Thank you too for your response.






    Quote Originally Posted by ForeverSmall View Post
    The can't send you anywhere. They can recommend that you go see a urologist, but they can't make you go. Just wear a diaper.

    You probably should go see a urologist though. I got jerked around and the urologist was no help, but everyone who has issues should go at least once. I have https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chroni..._pain_syndrome

    My general practitioner thought it was OAB for years.

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    Usually when I go to my heart Dr I wear a pad instead of my diaper. The rest of them I'll normally wear my diaper. With my vision problems I won't go to a urologist.
    Last edited by oleman72; 15-Jul-2013 at 19:06.

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    A couple of things come to my mind in this regard:

    I'm IC and grew up with it... Bedwetting, Daytime issues - so I frequently saw (and of course still do) doctors whilst wearing pads, pull ups or even diapers (I do mostly wear pads during daytime).

    From this experience:

    - Doctors are sworn to keep your private medical matters a secret. family doc or not - if the doc is any bit professional then he/she will NEVER discuss your diaper wearing (or other health matters) with anyone else without your written consent.
    - if you suffer from an overactive bladder - go to an urologist... there's tons of stuff that can be done (well not tons, but there are a good number of options, and the success rate supposedly is quite high).
    - A doctor can in 99% of the cases NOT force you to see anyone (other specialist).... a good doctor though will recommend you to do so.
    - She/He will most likely ASK YOU WHY you wear diapers.... especially if this is something that is new to the doc... Be honest. I mean you don't need to go the whole nine yards about ABDL stuff (that kind of stuff doesn't medically matter)- but you should be able to say that you wear for OAB, that this works well for you and is the least stressful solution. IF YOU CAN NOT DO SO - then don't wear a diaper if you have a choice..... don't BS the doc with some non-existent medical issue...
    - maybe WEAR A PAD instead? (pads are good if you change them frequently and don't flood them all the time.)... a pad is far more likely a "normal" thing for any regular diaper instead of a real diaper. Also it is what will be recommended for the more active IC people as it allows one to easily go and use the toilet - encourages normal toileting (Which is important to some - myself included).
    - WET? well, to be honest whenever I have doc appointment, I limit my fluid intake SLIGHTLY... really avoid Cofee and other such stuff at all... and CHANGE MY MAYBE WET PAD BEFORE I GO IN for the examination (or whatever). I would find it offensive to present myself in just a wet diaper / pad

    - BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY: I WEAR Boxershorts or Boxerbriefs OVER the pad/diaper ... No - it doesn't "hide" the pad entirely (but with a thin pad and mesh pants it's barely visible to someone who doesn't stare at your behind / groin).... but it doesn't show just a pad or diaper. it's what most ICs would do when they wear absorbent products - cover them up slightly... makes the whole undressing part a lot less awkward - for all involved.


    To add some emphasize on the OAB thing:
    you mentioned that you'd have to pee like 20-30 times a day... that's a LOT.
    Have you ever done some checking up on the reason for the problem?
    I mean of course it is YOUR BODY - YOUR CHOICE!! don't get me wrong.
    But I for one would give a LOT to get rid of the IC issues.... so despite the fact that I'm a DL and have come to terms with my situation, and that pads/diapers for me work best to help me lead a "normal" active life despite my IC - I would really love not to have to carry diapers anywhere, not to have to think of solutions when I'd like to do some remote travelling etc...
    Thus despite so far not yielding a solution I still see a highly acclaimed urologist once a year in the hopes that there's something new.
    Maybe you should consider taking care of that OAB of yours before it gets out of hand...

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