I am an ally for my LGTBQ+ friends and I (and my friends) have been wondering what being an ally to an ABDL* means. Obviously a lot of us have never thought about what it would be like to be out or to have an ally, but I am sure we could figure out what is important. My non-abdl ally asked me one day if he should stop calling me "big man" as he thought it might offend me because as an ABDL I might identify as a child. This brings up a good point about phrasing. Just as saying "that is so gay" is cruel there are things that are cruel to say to ABDL*s. Saying things like "stop acting like a baby" or "man up" (not relating to ABDL, just a general usage) seem really offensive to me. "Stop acting like a Sissy" insults the entire subset of ABDL*s who identify as sissies. Also anti-diaper comments and making fun of incontinence is also pretty irritating.
My site ABout ABDL - About ABDLs has a page about being an ally to an ABDL*. What do you guys think? I feel like I nailed a lot of things.