This is for anyone that has had or currently has a non accepting spouse for your ab/dl lifestyle. I am sorta currently in this situation. My spouse wants me to be her "man". I total understand this and it's normal for a guy to take care of their woman.
Now when I first told her about my baby side she was actually kinda relieved because I guess I was making a bigger deal than it was, but how can you blame me when telling someone something like this. So she was ok about it and was glad that I told her. I don't think she really understood though what I meant. I say this because I wanted to start out slow. So I got a pacifier and that was it. I even sked her if I can buy it and she was like ya sure. So I use my pacifier for a while and I can tell she doesn't really like it too much. She tells me that she wishes I wouldn't do it around her. After this I felt really sad because I got my hopes up because of the vibe I got from her after I told her about my baby side. So now I'm really confused and scared to even use my pacifier anymore. I'm afraid we will break up because of my baby ways. I wish it wasn't like this. I tried my best to tell her in the best way possible. I wish she can just accept me and love me for who I am.
Now I understand you can't get everything you want in life but I feel I was kinda slapped in the face. I knew I had to take it slow in the beginning. I know that I also have to respect what she wants out of me and I give that. Will we ever change as a couple? I lover so much and want to be with only her for the rest of my life but I'm getting super stressed about this issue.
I haven't used my pacifier in over a month and we never talk about my baby side. As much as I want to I feel I can't because her doors are already shut. We have agreed to go to couples therapy howeve that is for the most part other issues. I'm not sure what to do. I'm really scared things just won't turn out well.
Just a few questions for everyone.
Have you been in a relationship with a non accepting other?
If so what was it like?
What do you suggest in a situation like this?
How should I handle this in order to move forward?
If you are in a relationship where your spouse does accept your baby side then please feel free to maybe explain or point out why it has worked out.
Lastly thank you all for taking the time to read this.