So, about three years ago, I became a regular contributor to this site. I was branching out to other sites like Fetlife and even Facebook (on an alternate, non-my-name account), just trying to get out there and meet people. I was already kind of put off by numerous aspects of the lifestyle, like how even though I know I'm a (mostly) normal, functioning person, ab/dl seems to attract a LOT of...mentally ill people, I guess? I don't know. People with no boundaries, no social tact, and probable personality disorders.
Now, I've met a lot of cool people on-line and in person. Don't get me wrong. This isn't a gripe post, per se. It just seems to me that the second people find out I have an ab/dl wife, they get WEIRD. Like, when she made an account for fetlife, and was barraged with weirdo posts like "do u poop in ur dipers?" and such. These are, mind you, the first words these people have SPOKEN to my wife. Like...what in the FUCK?
It didn't get DISTURBING until I logged into our "joint" Facebook account on my phone. Facebook has (or maybe had) the WONDERFUL default setting that once you log in on your phone, they just go ahead and display your phone number. Thanks a bunch.
It was maybe a few hours after I logged in, and this fucking...weird...ASSHOLE starts texting me asking all kinds of fucking questions. The funny thing is, I found a cool couple on Fetlife the day before and had just given them my phone number, so I thought it was THEM. When they texted me a few hours later, I was completely dumbstruck. Who the fuck was the other guy, then?
Well, he was just SOME GUY from Facebook that was a member of a group we'd joined. Like...huh? You just FIND someone's phone number, start asking all these fucking questions...I felt completely fucking violated. It completely changed my view of and how I deal with internet perversion. I find myself MUCH less open to communication, and rather...intolerant where it comes to people's peccadilloes and quirks on-line. I shut down Facebook, and mostly stopped posting here and on Fetlife because of it.
I don't think I'm looking for a solution necessarily, but I'm just wondering...does anyone else get tired of people's shit on-line? Ab/dl's in particular have the capability of being the sweetest people, and a lot of them are just weirdos. I'm sure anyone who's reading this is GREAT, of course, but...what the fuck about THEM? lol